No, those are different things. Intrusive thoughts are your brain telling you terrible things like you suck at your work or your hobbies, you’re worthless, your friends don’t actually like you, and hey remember that time you did a cringey thing in front of people? They’re not true, and you’re not intentionally having these thoughts, but your brain can’t easily rationalize them away. It’s usually something that builds up over a lifetime so that you don’t even realize it’s happening. Thats how so many people get stuck believing the intrusive thoughts.

They definitely are raw (the tops are perfectly green), but covered in oil and what looks like seasoning. It gives an AI vibe because it’s close to reality, but then you realize no one eats carrots that way.

How does that not hurt your wrist??

Yeah I saw a Bloomberg headline this week that said the price of eggs will probably never come back down. If they had published that three months ago, maybe people wouldn’t have based their vote around that.

Men can get breast cancer. It’s more rare for men than women, but not totally uncommon. If we called it chest cancer, that would be confusing since the heart and lungs also reside in the chest. I wonder what your therapist would think about that.

Don’t go to Facebook first! We need to start normalizing ways to organize outside of those giant corpo-fascist sites.

How can they argue that when we have clear precedent for other types of mandatory disclosures like TILA, the truth in lending act?

Especially at work, where you can’t leave and should probably be focusing on the work.

Apparently they’ve decided once every 5 years is enough for women. Now I wonder if that’s because of the doctor shortage…

I keep getting told that no one will want to see my travel photos. Maybe it’s because I’d rather show them in person instead of posting on social media?

Yeah, I participated in the one that was a few days before the inauguration. Heard about it from the front page of the New York Times. I’m pretty sure I heard about the other 700 marches planned for inauguration day here on Lemmy since this is the only social media site I use.

When you post that much on a small, not-very-popular-yet site, people are going to get tired of seeing you. I’m pretty sure I’ve blocked you at least once just because you were the ONLY content I was seeing on my front page. Why would I or anyone else come to a place like this and be ok with only seeing content from one user, or the same meme over and over with slightly varying formats?

One time it snowed a foot or two in Seattle. I had a set of studded tires on a little Toyota Tercel and I swear I was the only fucker driving around. Uphill, downhill, cruising down the lumpy hard-packed freeway, didn’t have any problems. Besides, if you get stuck in a Tercel you can just lift the whole rear of the car out of the snow with a second person. I really miss that car.

That’s odd. I read most of The Myth of Normal and did not get anything like what you’re saying from it. In fact, Mate mostly blamed “the system” for keeping people traumatized. I would have stopped reading immediately if he’d said anything like “children are too sensitive.” Are you sure this Barkley isn’t mischaracterizing Mate? Did Mate later change his stance about everything? Based on his book, I can’t imagine why he would ever say the things you describe.

Oof. Soon every job is going to ask “HoW mAnY fOlLoWeRs Do YoU hAvE?”

Before you give up entirely, check out some of the areas surrounding Seattle. The capital is a bit more affordable and there are a lot of state jobs.

The person you’re arguing with is on the Canadian instance, so likely living in Canada, where servers are paid real wages, not $2.75 or whatever. (If the real wages still aren’t enough to live on, then Canada should probably be raising the minimum wage, rather than tipping a small percentage of their minimum wage workers.)

What? How is it a property grab if no one can live there? Only the stupidest and/or richest people would buy an uninsurable home. You can’t get a mortgage without insurance, because the banks want to make sure they still have an asset to repossess if you default. Even if you were that rich, why would you throw your money away on something that will almost certainly be destroyed, sooner rather than later, without a way to recoup any of the cost? If a company like Zillow comes in and snaps up all the uninsurable homes in these regions, they’ll be declaring bankruptcy within 5 years.

Conventional therapy wasn’t working for me either. Most of them just let you free talk, but what I really needed was information–useful information, not just a list of disorders with discombobulated symptoms. I started getting into bibliotherapy with The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk. It’s a good place to start even though it’s written a bit clinically. Other good ones are The Myth of Normal by Gabor Mate, and Children of Emotionally Immature Parents by Lindsay Gibson.

The books gave me things I didn’t know I needed: examples of healthy and unhealthy behaviors and relationships, examples of healthy boundaries and how to make them, and types of trauma or neglect that may have happened in childhood. I also learned about the four F responses (freeze, flight, fight, and fawn) which helped me to interpret my own confusing emotions and behaviors in a new light.

It sounds like maybe the first step is to cut yourself some slack for being stuck. Most of us don’t choose to go into the hole, we just find ourselves there. It’s ok. With the right tools, you can get yourself out.

Find a hiking group or partner then. It’s free, you’ll get a little exercise, and it doesn’t have to be much of a commitment.