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Cake day: July 30th, 2023

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  • That’s the unfortunate reality of the corporate overlord structure we’ve been living in for a while. If you’re financially strapped and must go in, inform your coworkers ahead of time so they can arrange their working space to be away from you (and also let them know their company policy is compelling you to come in). Double mask and eat your lunch away and outside the office if possible. Bring your own sanitizers.

    I’ve had coworkers in this same situation and I don’t begrudge them for coming in under similar circumstances so long as they took personal precautions to minimize potential spread.

    Hope you feel better soon.






  • I read somewhere that the US has one of the largest, if not THE largest, percentage of population incarcerated. I feel like there’s overall more people who know someone, at least some distant relative, who served time than not, so it’s shocking to see such a large outcry on even super liberal social media sites, like reddit, for prisoners to get raped, assaulted, killed and/or generally mistreated. So that empathy may be a long ways away.





  • I hope you are doing ok. If you are in my old situation, know that you aren’t alone.

    I’m casually observing a lot of this with friends. Met a very accomplished lady recently who shifted from working in the investment banking sector into getting her licensing and a private practice to be a therapist. She worked her ass off with education and multiple part-time jobs to get her to where she’s at. Shockingly, she is a mommy-wife to a guy who doesn’t want to commit to marriage.




  • This may be overly cautious, but I recommend making a log and gathering evidence for if/when this escalates further. Keep in mind that at 17 she is still a minor, so there is an additional burden of responsibility that is imposed upon you and your partner in every interaction you have with her. Get dates, times, and statements from your brother and partner on the 2 occasions she entered your home and slept over, in particular. The last thing you want to deal with is a false accusation from this kid who does not seem to regard nor respect your boundaries, which you have set clear at this point. Get security cameras. Document everything ongoing. I personally wouldn’t block her texts for now.

    Next step is to inform her legal guardians, in this case her parents, that she is not welcome on your property nor to contact you or your partner. I would do it in some form of writing - email or text, again for the sake of evidence. At this point the responsibility for her actions shifts to them. If she is on your doorstep contact them directly and expect immediate action. You can also inform them that you have concerns over her mental health.

    Once these are done, you have real actionable choices that you can take. I know it sucks having to feel like a bad guy in this scenario, but it sounds like she needs professional help. Her parents are the ones to blame here.