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  • “I hate seeing homeless people trying to cope with being homeless”

    This is called a number of things:

    • putting words in someone’s mouth
    • mis-using quotation marks
    • a straw man

    He didn’t say that. He said he hates to see homeless people in there jerking off and doing drugs.

    Respond to that. Don’t respond to something else that so heavily distorts what the other guy said. There’s no point, other than to sacrifice anything valuable the conversation could have been into being a play about how morally superior you are.

    Ugh.


  • There is no system under which nobody will be homeless, unless some people are kept inside by force. We can reduce homelessness, but if we don’t stop until there is ZERO then we will have gone far into the realm of cutting people’s rights down so much they can’t screw their own lives up.

    I hate that this is true, but we don’t benefit from pretending (or legitimately believing) that it isn’t.

    In order to have a world where people can determine their own destiny, ie in order to have a world with freedom, we must allow people to destroy themselves.

    The system is badly rigged and unfair, but even the perfect system will still have some homeless people.





  • I’m adding to this because I think it came out wrong.

    I’m not using mediocre as a pejorative here. I’m saying that I used to be largely paralyzed by life, and my dreams were huge. For a while my goal was “help humanity expand into the stars”. Then it switched to “help humanity survive WW3”.

    But lately it’s more like “Have enough cash on hand that I can handle two small crises back to back without losing momentum, and then get the emotional benefits from that sense of security” and “Be around people who make me feel valued and respected”.

    What I’ve discovered is that those small dreams motivate me a lot more, because I can actually see how my day to day decisions can affect those things.

    My favorite psychology professor always says that the path out of depression starts with “orienting yourself toward the highest good you can conceive of”. At first I thought that meant the loftiest goal I could think of.

    But I realized that while I can say “Help humanity expadn into the stars” I don’t have a concrete, solid image of what exactly that means. It’s vague. It’s not an image; it’s just words.

    But those smaller goals, I can actually conceive of them. I can visualize them, and see them concretely. If i try to look higher than that, to my later goals like “having a family” and “being a productive member of the community”, I can’t see them.

    So this “that you can conceive of” I think it really works best when I think of it as “that I can actually visualize and feel”.