X-Strahlen

Window shopping on a hookup site is one thing, it seems a bit like some people have just not gotten the memo that that’s not what a long-term relationship looks like. Superficial stuff is nice but I’d rather find someone I really, really like. Can’t really window shop for that though and it might take a long, long time to actually find out if the feelings match reality.

Apparently a large amount of people are essentially casting someone for the role of partner though. Never really taking down their personality defenses, never just being themselves. Because that’s being vulnerable. 1800s style. I’d rather stay single.

sexual desires are being able to be fulfilled illusionary and in a fantasy world.

Aren’t we pretty much there already? Dating and being together is about so much more than sex, the loneliness epidemic has other causes.

There’s a spectrum going from someone just posting stuff and getting paid to shameless exploitation of vulnerable people through parasocial relationships. The latter can be very lucrative.

Meanwhile I just noticed that my mobile provider (Congstar Germany) will be completely phasing out their online customer center in favor of their app. They already removed functionality from the site, like seeing how much data you have used this month. Why? The answer is in their huge list of third-party cookies I assume.

I’d argue that knowledge is more than that, otherwise books or state machines could also be said to know things.

True, really wish that could just be a them problem though.

I agree, there doesn’t seem to be a good way to make voting not at the very least semi-public anyway so just stop a) pretending the information is protected and b) remove the not-a-disagree-button-but-totally-a-disagree-button. There is a report link for rules violations, maybe a separate one for spam would be good as well, otherwise, I don’t know, just allow people to add an actual poll to comments if they want to?

They convey time instantly, without reading. You don’t even need the numbers for them to work. It’s like showing a progress bar versus just giving the percentage as a number.

Is this one of those hacking tools?

I’m just saying that there’s a reason why this might hurt and make people avoid it. Takes a lot of work to reduce that because it isn’t a conscious reaction you can just decide to not have.

you can just move on with your life

That’s easily said, but if you, for example, struggle with self-image anyway then being ostracized like that can really sting and paralyze. It probably is relatively easy for people who have a lot of self-confidence anyway, but not everybody does, especially in these situations.

This then usually bring up the problem of guys not taking the hint when a woman refuses nicely. It seems to me like the best strategy for a woman who isn’t interested in over-confident/tone-deaf guys is to do the asking herself. Which also comes with lots of potential issues.

Also if it isn’t a random person at a bar you’re talking to but someone you already know a bit then rejection probably also means that any other relationship you might have had is over, maybe even any relationship you had with mutual friends/acquaintances.

There is very little positive guidance, just a sea of don’ts, usually worded as absolutes. And a lot of divisive “gender war” BS from all sides. Really not surprising.

The unease doesn’t come from the word itself being a grave insult but, for example, from being bullied for being “weird”.

Also the guy who fixed GTA Online’s ridiculous loading times.

They belong to the king!

(The king of cats, not the other guy)

Things I want from Firefox/Mozilla, in no particular order:

• Just hire the uBlock Origin guy, Chrome doesn’t want him
• Dissolve the Mozilla Corporation, start a Patreon or whatever
• Foxkeh plushie

I am willing to compromise on the “unreasonable” ones 🦊

It’s also worth noting that the bourgeoisie doesn’t just compete for power with the other two classes (proletariat and petit-bourgeoisie) - it also competes internally. And for that, different factions within the class will seek external support from different groups, and align their discourses to those.

And if someone were to ignore that and view them as a single-minded monolith it can easily be explained as divide & conquer tactics.

Marmelade?!

The penguin must scream!