machiabelly [she/her]

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Cake day: November 1st, 2020

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  • But, I am afraid of people who care more about what they want from me than my feelings and autonomy.

    Then maybe you could just trust me then when I say its a deeply uncomfortable and dehumanizing experience. When I say no I want people to respect it. I deserve that kind of autonomy. Once you make your feelings known to someone, and they reject you, they are likely to let you know if their feelings change in the future. Also, I hate rejecting people. It doesn’t feel good. Someone being persistent means I have to do it a lot.


  • lmao I was giving an example of how I can take issue with the way to people met, arranged marriage, “persistence,” but still acknowledge that the relationship itself might be fine. Your individual experience with your parents isn’t worth much.

    You might admire your father for getting what he wants from your mother. But, I am afraid of people who care more about what they want from me than my feelings and autonomy.

    Have you ever been the subject of someone persistent?