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  • I understand how you feel. The first step to reduce the frustration is to try and give it less importance: as you said yourself, it’s not falling in love, it’s just infatuation. Your brain is confusing attractiveness to another person (physical or romantic) for a deep connection that doesn’t come at first sight (despite what movies and tv would make you believe) but develops in time.

    You will be attracted to a lot of people in your life (assuming you’re not aromantic or asexual) and, with time, you’ll realize if you went deeper in many of these situation, the attraction would disappear, because the shallow opinion you have of a person you are not dating is very difficult to get right, and usually filtered positively by your monkey brain that just wants to formicate.

    Of course trying and deepening these attractions would help you realizing this, which might not be easy if you have difficult approaching other people, but try and reflect on similar situations in the past and think about them cold-hearted: to how many people are you still infatuated? Don’t you see now the “bad things” that you brain was hiding and that don’t make you two really compatible?

    Eventually it just becomes a nuisance. I don’t know if you can change it, but you can accept it and it will bother you less if you understand the mechanism behind it.

    Maybe you just feel affection-starved and in these situations it’s easy to attach to ideas of relationships rather than real ones. Nothing weird of course, everybody do it is some way or another. It’s a combination of social brain and (according to your comnents) low self-esteem.

    Of course these are my 2 cents according to personal experience, a therapist would you help you more with that.




  • I mean, I am glad you and other people are able to enjoy the show also given the inconsistencies, but the question I tried to answer was why people cared about canon and coherence. It might not be important for you, but from what I can see, it looks like it matters for a lot of people, especially in a show that except for TOS and maybe a little of the first season of TNG, tried really hard to stay coherent with itself, in the bad and the good.

    You can’t really blame a show for not being coherent in their early days, but once stuff is established, you can expect faithful fans to be mad about disrupting an expansive narrative.



  • Not saying any of these would cause WW3, but remeber that, depending on who you ask, WW2 started:

    • when Germany and Russia invaded Poland in 1939
    • when Germany invaded Checkoslovakia in 1938
    • when Japan invaded China in 1937

    there is no single point of start for a war, just many actions of variable intensity that escalate



  • Because an expansive universe lore is enjoyable if it’s coherent and there are stakes at play. If you consider the official canon, voyager as a series is pretty much to throw away, because the Federation would already have the technology to bring them home centuries ago. And yes, many times the writers played around the concept in good ways to not make Discovery a ridicolously overpowered ship, but it still suffers from big “Superman is so strong he can destroy a plenet with his mind” energy.

    Can you make the whole series good with deus ex machina superpowers? I guess. Was the writing good enough for it? Absolutely not.

    Yes, I am aware of the baby lizards warp 10 episode of Voyager, that should also be thrown away from canon as it makes no sense, but at least it was a whacky episode among many (and the showrunners ackowledged it) not the premise of an entire seriea.


  • This article seem to point a key difference: old trek = episodic (boring), new trek = serialized (exciting). Yet the two most appreciated series (to my impression) are SNW and LD, both being episodic and highly faithful to the “old” series, while refreshing some themes and presentation, in a positive and modern way.

    Discovery is not hated because it’s serialized, or “gritty” (DS9 is gritty, with genocide and war crimes, DIS is cringey, with heavy and dark themes carried out as a 12 years old would). DIS is hated because of poor writing, low stakes, monolithic, brainless and spineless characters and a general lack of respect for established canon that can only be resolved by (SPOILER BELOW)

    Yeeting them out of our time and literally erasing them from history. And somehow even in the far future their incredible technology is advanced.