Nobody is going to get their own apartment or home without a loan, at least not anyone whom this is directed to. I don’t know him, I don’t want to know about him, I’m only criticizing his message. If what you say is true, he also seems to be someone who contradicts himself as well because staying with family is a great way to avoid needless loans, costs, and liabilities that consumer culture tries to instill (specially when their parents get old enough to become extremely dependent and susceptible to scammers). Not only did I not know about him, but you are not painting a great picture of him if he seems to be that inconsistent.