• penquin
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    5 months ago

    My 10 year old son is like that. It’s been a chore teaching him otherwise and explaining that some skills could take years.

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      5 months ago

      It’s tricky for sure. For my kids, I try to take any and all wins (no matter the size) and emphasize how it took hard work and practice for them to succeed. I also remind them that even in failure they can learn something for next time. Hopefully it’ll set the right attitude for them. Good luck!

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        5 months ago

        Something helpful someone said to me is that if someone says something like “I can’t do it”, simply say “yet” and it immediately changes their point of view.

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          5 months ago

          That’s actually a good one. Thank you. I’ll start using it.

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        5 months ago

        Thanks for that. He seems to get frustrated around not being able to just solve all of his math problems right away. Like when I point out some mistakes he has in his homework (after he asks me to) he gets frustrated with that. Every time he does, I explain that it’s ok to make mistakes and it’s good to learn from them. He’s been getting better.