I try to be, but I don’t rule out there may be aspects of the definition that go over my head. For example, there was a time when I was more known for giving to those in need than I’m known for now, but there were critics of mine who saw this and would accuse me of “buying over my friends with gifts”. These same people often ask if I see people as pawns because I exchange favors with them, ask if I “think flattery is okay” during the times when I was more known for complimenting others, and criticize me over a combination things I’ve long made up for, things that normally wouldn’t be seen as problematic, and unproven things. I guess I have a lot of everyday pharisees in life who make me think of this question a lot and that this is fresh in my mind. I don’t stop people from wanting to explain how I’m not nice though, I just want to understand (within reason, I am my own human).
I try to be, but I don’t rule out there may be aspects of the definition that go over my head. For example, there was a time when I was more known for giving to those in need than I’m known for now, but there were critics of mine who saw this and would accuse me of “buying over my friends with gifts”. These same people often ask if I see people as pawns because I exchange favors with them, ask if I “think flattery is okay” during the times when I was more known for complimenting others, and criticize me over a combination things I’ve long made up for, things that normally wouldn’t be seen as problematic, and unproven things. I guess I have a lot of everyday pharisees in life who make me think of this question a lot and that this is fresh in my mind. I don’t stop people from wanting to explain how I’m not nice though, I just want to understand (within reason, I am my own human).