Everytime when I visiti parents home it seems that don’t care I’m even there. They have their “sports routines”, which cannot be stopped. It happens to others too. Most topics revolt around what matches they had, with whom and watch matches in TV. Whenever they go to some holidays they look for sports hall for playing. They take part in exercises with coach, they play occasional games with 20+ friends.
The last time I had some talk, was that one time couple months ago when I brought the board game to improve our family integrity and communication skills, to get to know each other better, but that was once.
I feel that I I know them mostly on the surface level currently.
There are a couple people who I refer to as my best friends, and they’re even in a relationship with each other, but they debate/argue all. the. time.
On the outside, one would see this as a sign of incompatibility, but they both maintain as well as demonstrate this isn’t the case, and, according to them, “a sign we met at the school debate club.”
In any case, though they always had warmth, it always felt distracted, unless I too was debating with them. Their two main bonding activities are spelunking and one could say photobombing as I’ve mentioned, two things I don’t have the physical/mental patience for.
IMO for some people arguing is a form of intimacy