I’m firmly of the opinion that aromantic people shouldn’t fucking date, since the whole goddamn point of dating is forming romantic relationships. Similarly, if someone identifies as asexual, they need to be completely up-front about that, so that no one that has a normal sexuality wastes their time.
Given that I had an 11 year marriage to someone that knew they were asexual and didn’t tell me for the first decade, that shit fucks you up. And I’ve known another woman that was in the same boat; her boyfriend loved her, but entirely neglected her sexuality, and it fuckin’ wrecked her self-esteem because her needs weren’t being met at all.
I’m firmly of the opinion that aromantic people shouldn’t fucking date, since the whole goddamn point of dating is forming romantic relationships. Similarly, if someone identifies as asexual, they need to be completely up-front about that, so that no one that has a normal sexuality wastes their time.
Given that I had an 11 year marriage to someone that knew they were asexual and didn’t tell me for the first decade, that shit fucks you up. And I’ve known another woman that was in the same boat; her boyfriend loved her, but entirely neglected her sexuality, and it fuckin’ wrecked her self-esteem because her needs weren’t being met at all.