• grue@lemmy.world
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      6 hours ago

      That’s beside the point. If you understand why it’s not okay to make racist or otherwise-bigoted jokes, you should understand why this sort of humor perpetuating the normalization of harassment isn’t a great idea either.

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        5 hours ago

        Then why is it okay to harass people with stupid “You just have to be brave enough to ask her?” style posts, those probably hurt anyone who tried that and got rejected.

        • grue@lemmy.world
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          5 hours ago

          Okay, I’ll explain it clearly for the incels among us:

          Asking a woman out once is perfectly fine*. It also might be okay to try again after a while if she said “no” that first time, if your relationship evolves and circumstances change.

          When it becomes harassment is when you refuse to take “no” for an answer and do it repeatedly with no legitimate reason to believe that she changed her mind.

          (* Assuming there isn’t something like a power imbalance going on, in which case you either never ask or you resign from your position of power over her before asking.)