• dlrht
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    8 months ago

    I see/hear about marriages started at 30+ 40+ 50+ all the time that fail. I see people pivot careers and industries in the middle years of their life. People tastes change all the time as they get older. Let’s not pretend that when your brain finishes developing you suddenly have life figured out/know exactly what you want

    I generally agree that getting married before 24 is a pretty risky move and you have to have thought it through very carefully, but the argument that “you don’t know what you want for the rest of your life” is not the reason why that is. It relates more to life experience/emotional capability/massive foresight. Marriage is more than just “wanting something for the rest of your life”, it’s a commitment, it’s not just some eternal desire you may/may not have

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      8 months ago

      Nobody said if you marry after 30 it’s a slams dunk you fucking nonce.

      Your argument is seriously who cares about the brain developing or pivotal and even just other life experiences in general have yet to happen -/ because people at every age change jobs and divorce and remarry so it doesn’t matter!

      What the fuck kind of logic is that?? It’s supposed to be about limiting unnecessary pain and loss that results for uninformed expectations not eliminating all divorce ever. For fucks sake lmao

      Jesus Christ, believe what you want. You’ll learn soon enough

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        8 months ago

        Yeah I do believe what I want and I’m in a happy marriage thanks! Cheers. I never said to divorce all the time but you’re not really reading properly