• MissJinx@lemmy.world
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      If I go on a date with a guy that has his own place at this economy I just assume he is a psychopath

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        Hey I’m not a psychopath and I have my own place. Sure it may look like a house where people turn into missing persons but I’m completely normal. You get what you can get in this economy.

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        I guess it depends on your age. When I was in my 20s everyone had their own apartment, but now it doesn’t seem feasible til 30s.

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          Yes but that’s because we don’t all live in the 1950s anymore.

          It used to be that you could support a family of four on a single income that’s where the whole idea of the male bread winner came from. These days you struggle with two incomes.

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    has his own place

    That pretty much rules out anyone under 35 and single with current property prices.

    Nearly all my friends who have bought property, did it as DINK couples, not on their lonesome. Hard to get the down payment together otherwise.

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        That’s not your own place. You could get kicked out at any time with just a month or 2 of notice. I’ve been renting apartments since I left the uni dorm, never considered an apartment to be my own place, even though I usually lived alone.

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          Literally everybody in the civilized world considers “having their own place” just living away from their parents and sometimes also not having room mates.

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          Renting an apartment is clearly having your own place, why does the greentexter care if you’re renting or paying a mortgage?

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          I’m 99% sure that isn’t what the OOP means, though. They mean you don’t live with your parents (or maybe without any housemates).

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            Maybe. That’s like the default past the age of 20 though.

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            What a creative and meaningful way to dismiss someone’s arguments.

            The words “your own place” imply ownership. Mostly everyone rents when they leave their parents place. To have your own place, you need to actually buy one, otherwise you’re still living in someone else’s place

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              With your dumbass logic hardly anyone has their own place, when you have a mortgage the bank owns your house.

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      I didn’t get my own place until I was 33 and I will fully admit that the only reason I was able to do that was because my parents lent me a huge amount of money. My car is literally their old car and looks like it.

      Those really are kind of unreasonable standards. If I have my own car, and my own house, and apparently I have to do all the cleaning now even though there’s two of us? What on earth is she being to the relationship?

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      I’m on the approach to my 40s and most of the people I know my age are still renting. I was lucky enough to buy an abandoned property after the 08’ crash for 30k, and that was only because I was able to secure a large personal loan from my credit union.

      Even though I’m making a lot more money now, I don’t think I’d be able to afford the neighborhood I’m currently living in based on how much it’s appreciated over the last 10 years.

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    What’s the woman equivalent of a neckbeard?

    A woman on 4chan with those requirements and can’t keep a conversation going, has no sense of humour, doesn’t have a car, lives with their parents, and doesn’t speak a word when you go out with your friends.

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    You lost me at knows how to go on dates, I got lost in the woods while trying to get to the restaurant 5 minutes from my house