After some recent shit with my family I’ve finally made the difficult decision that I need to cut them off one day and that I’m not going to have a relationship with them going forwards. When I get the chance to change my legal name I’m also going to change my last name too as a way of separation from them all. I’ve already picked a new first and middle name but I really have no idea what to do for the last one. Like last names have histories behind them and a lot of time it has to do with what country or culture you’ve come from so it would be weird of me to pick a last name based in a culture that I’m not from.

Has anyone else gone through this? Do you all have any advice for how to start choosing one?

  • lilypad [she/her, null/void]@hexbear.net
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    1 year ago

    I took my grandmothers maiden name. It made sense to me, and fits with how i am. Maybe you could find a family member who you had actual connection and familial love for and take their maiden name? Alternatively, pick up a census and start reading? Idk not sure thats helpful but its what i got 😅.

    • ElectronNumberSeven [she/her]@hexbear.netOP
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      1 year ago

      Maybe you could find a family member who you had actual connection and familial love for and take their maiden name?

      yea yea yea

      My sister is the one and only person that comes anywhere close to having a connection with me, my feelings range from indifferent to dislike to hate for literally every other family member I have