Their games aren’t strictly single player, though. They’re designed with the idea that co-op partners or hostile players can drop in and out at any time. Pausing doesn’t quite work with that model.

then give me the ability to turn that shit off.

I don’t want to be invaded. I don’t want to be exploring a part of the map and have all my progress reset because “DickSucker420” invades me and fucks me up with his maxed out weapons.

I like it because it prevents you from cheesing the game Skyrim style by pausing, eating a dozen wheels of cheese, and becoming extremely hard to kill.

but FromSoft games don’t have anything like that so idk what benefits pausing would bring except pausing the game which is the whole reason people want it.