A pretty common saying, and I guess it makes sense from the outside. But what does that mean if I’m that person? Like what am I supposed to do if I’m just completely unable to “help myself”?
It’s a good way to excuse yourself for not being able to help someone that needs help, but that person doesn’t stop existing when you say that. Something has to happen with them. What is that something?
(Note: I’m not in a crisis or anything at the moment. I’m not going to do something like hurt myself any time soon. It’s just a general observation about that statement combined with my general lack of ability to help myself or even ask for help.)
Are you in therapy? That would be the helping yourself, seeking professional assistance. It sounds like you might also be confused on what, exactly, you need help with, which to me means you need to talk to someone about what’s bothering you, explore your feelings, or at least write all this down in a journal for your own personal reflection. You’re not being very specific on what you think you need help with.