And if so how did you move on or heal? Personally it took me 5 years to move on and I’m about to have it broken again lol but hey at least now I know how it feels 
Still makes life a bit more interesting and thrilling, nothing harder imo than telling someone else how you really feel, it’s terrifying.
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my heart hardened and now it’s been a very long time since i’ve shared close personal feelings with another human, but it’s fine. everything is fine.
damn that fucking sucks man :(
I was like that for a while too and I hope you meet someone that makes you light headed and warm all over someday
Thanks, I appreciate it. Don’t worry about me though, my mistakes are my own and I don’t really have regrets even if I would prefer a different outcome. Don’t work fully remote or eschew social events is what I’d suggest.
Don’t work fully remote or eschew social events is what I’d suggest.
good advice, thanks.
No
loooots of breakup songs, and time, and meaningless sex, and then falling in love again. it sounds dumb but try to do something creative, it feels like it gives me something to do with the heartache, somewhere to put the pain. honestly im not “moved on” i could put on a song or go to a place we used to go and i feel the pain all over again, if i listen to right where you left me i will fully sob with a runny nose and gasping breathes as i think about her.
well im an artist so thankfully I can sort of distract myself with like, creating stuff for work. Actually i found the sadder I get the better my art becomes lmfao, so hopefully by my third heartbreak i’ll be exposed at the MoMA
hahaha i think im the same! that must be why ive been writing such shit lately. best of luck and love to you comrade!
yes in tiny little pieces
you never really get over it tbh, you just live with it
yeah, not gonna lie I had no clue how to deal with it at first and I somehow escaped the incel/MGTOW bullshit that flared up at the time, my strategy was to basically behave like a houseplant, stand in a corner and exist. Oh and chainsmoke a whole lot too. Still do that actually lol.
reasonable and fair
i did lots of drugs and slept around to try and feel loved. didnt work but it was fun
Sleep>love tbqh
the amount of dates i skipped just to nap
I think heartbreak always sucks but, if you’re doing it right, each time you get better at managing it. I don’t think that it gets any easier per se but you become more familiar with the terrain and how to navigate it each time you go through it.
Without knowing more of your specific situation, my general advice would be to get through the initial phase where you’re just barely keeping it together and everything reminds you of them etc. etc. and once you’re past that part then, basically, start dating yourself.
Sounds weird I know but if you focus on making yourself happy and taking yourself on outings to do interesting things then it’s going to make moving on easier because you’ll keep yourself busy and you’ll find ways to make your life fulfilling without needing to have a partner with you. I also think it sets you up well for the next person who you start dating because you won’t be desperately lonely or in dire need of someone else to make you happy but instead you’ll be like “I was gonna take myself for a picnic - wanna join?” and you’ll get to see if they fit in well with your lifestyle and if they contribute to your overall enjoyment and happiness.
If you come at dating from a place of need then it can cause a lot of headaches and you might compromise a lot more than is ideal but if you’re like “This date kinda sucks and I’d rather be doing this by myself because last time I did this I was alone and it was much more enjoyable” then you won’t find yourself getting drawn into poor quality relationships because your loneliness is motivating you to settle for less than you deserve.
Thank you for this.
this is such a nice idea :)
Time wounds all the heals as they fade out of view, but never out of your mind or memories.
It’s harder for me as I’m in the closet and don’t really have anyone to talk about it with, so it just all stays inside. Being closeted also makes relationships way more complicated and definitely has contributes to them failing.
5 years? How long were you with this person? And yeah I have. It sucked hard and I spent a good chunk of time moping and obsessing too much over it. Spending more time with friends and family helped me get my head out of my ass, but it was still pretty difficult.
Barely a year, but i was genuinely in love with her, when distance made it impossible to continue it genuinely fucked me up.
Heyyy I was just about to post something like this. Absolutely OP. I’m currently going home for the holidays on the same day I was supposed to be going to see my now ex-partner. It’s been a month since we split up, and it still feels rough. It’s soul crushing, especially when you have to keep on a brave face for others.
I’ve talked to a close friend and some family who helped me realize that there were a lot of red flags and toxic behaviors I just didn’t see. I’m better off now and I know it deep down. But shit… You don’t just spend years with a person without getting close with them, and missing them. Even if they’re not good for you. Even if you genuinely did love that person. You just keep moving, by any means necessary.
But hey, I guess that’s what you have to do. Just keep at it, and even something like getting from one day to another is enough. And find/do things that you like to do. Anyway, not sure where I’m going with all this. But I sincerely wish you well comrade, from one sad hexbear to another. Best of luck.
Perspective helps a lot. At least for me, once the immediate pain wears off I look back and give real serious thought to why it failed, what we were both looking for from the relationship, where it differed, all that kinda stuff. Getting a handle on that, the thought that it was never gonna work, gives me sort of a lifeline.
I feel like I’ve never had anything but. I’m very lonely but trying to connect with people just reminds me of how bad I am at it.
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especially when you’re young
I was 17
No, I only break hearts 😈
I actually stopped dating and am almost celibate now, I’ve become pretty pessimistic about the whole concept of romance. It’s a controversial take, but I think there’s almost something inherently toxic to having a romantic relationship with someone, you’re becoming psychologically dependent on someone and they are dependent on you. It robs you of your autonomy.
I have no heart anymore
Yup, once before and again right now actually 😔 thank you for posting this thread as reading responses is really helping. If you want someone to talk to, shoot me a dm.
