• Zugyuk@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    You can be the change you want to see. Tell them they’re being creeps, and don’t white knight

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      8 months ago

      I think in a lot of people’s books you’d be white knighting just by doing that.

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        8 months ago

        I see what you mean, but I think that the lack of follow-up, or call for attention to yourself puts it in a different category.

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        8 months ago

        The solution is for everyone else to act like school kids and treat the guy like he has a crush and make fun of him. No one likes to be told they’re sitting in a tree.

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      8 months ago

      Sorry girl, but we’re all dudes in here so you’re kind of a creep for hanging out.

      ( I know what you meant :P )

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        8 months ago

        If I still played multiplayer games, I’d just start a kick vote and leave it at that.

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    8 months ago

    But it’s actually a 7 year old boy…

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    8 months ago

    Last couple times i played with a woman no one was disrespectful which surpriced me greatly.

    Tbf the Squad community is pretty cool.

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    8 months ago

    I don’t think Dota 2 is like this. At least not in NA. People just want mmr. They don’t give a shit about your gender lol

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      8 months ago

      I wanna believe things are getting better. I have had women speak in my dota games a few times recently and havent seen anything weird. Though to be fair, the average age of dota player is pretty high. so maybe this is why.

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        8 months ago

        I think this is the main reason. Without googling anything I’d say the average age of a dota 2 player is at least 19 (if not more) compared to 14-15 for other games.

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      8 months ago

      I haven’t played for a couple years but from what I remember out of thousands of hours playing I only heard a woman speak a small handful of times, it was always very surprising

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        Oh I’m not saying a female player is common, all I’m saying is that people don’t treat them poorly. I have played with a girlfriend a couple of years ago and we had zero poor interactions. There are toxic people but they are toxic towards everyone. Nothing specific to female players.

    • ParsnipWitch@feddit.de
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      8 months ago

      DOTA 2 gave me a Stalker on Steam. Also a lot of inappropriate comments and insults. You also get automatically blamed more. I only play with friends now.

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      8 months ago

      Yup I’ve had the same experience with Dota 2. I can’t speak for the super low behavior score crowd, but on the high end everyone’s pretty chill.

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        I’m now thinking that maybe male players should randomly use voice modulators to make it harder to assume someone’s gender

        But yeah, situation and community is a bit fucked up, and part of why I tend to only interact with my friends on-line

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    8 months ago

    I can’t believe it’s still a thing! I remember when Anita Sarkeesian was more in the news.

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    8 months ago

    It’s fun when you’re a guy who can do a convincing woman’s voice before dropping right back into a gravelly baritone.

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    So true. I’ve had to leave games/communities I absolutely love because of the male gamers that can’t act with a modicum of adult, and the majority of others won’t call them out on that behaviour.

    Props to the communities that do welcome and treat us gals as fellow gamers.

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    8 months ago

    Fuck girl “gamers” they just jump the games cause they get attention