• junderwood@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    One thing I’ll say about the old model was that out of all the dating apps, Bumble was the only one where every woman who I met or even just messaged with could hold a conversation. That one requirement of them reaching out first set the bar, and I knew they were making the choice to speak to me out of all the other guys they were drowning in. I ended up with more dates through Bumble than any other app, and even made great friends with some people I didn’t romantically click with. Online dating is awful, or was for me, but Bumble was the least awful one of the bunch. The new model sounds not so great.

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      2 months ago

      I met my fiancée on Bumble 4 years ago, but I also created this from my experience on the app:

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      To me it’s so so. They either texted, we had a conversation and ended up on a date the next week, or they sent a message, i answered, waited for a week to get a “lol”.

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      2 months ago

      really? I haven’t used Bumble myself but I’ve heard stories of guys with inboxes full of women just saying “hi”

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        In my experience all the women do start with hi however 100% of them engaged with the conversation after that. It felt much better then getting a bunch of matches but most of them ignoring you(understandably).

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        2 months ago

        The story I heard was 9/10ths of the women on the platform had “I don’t message first, you message me first” in their bio, so it was functionally a display case for morons.

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      Women hold conversations on every app? This feels like an extremely misogynistic take. I’ve literally never had a problem with women not being able to hold a conversation, like, some do and some don’t. It’s just an app and you aren’t entitled to people’s time.

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        2 months ago

        Men learn jokes and pickup lines to impress girls

        You: That’s mysogynistic

        Women have to do the same

        You: That’s mysogynistic

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          Pickup lines are worse than just saying hey, like wow you copy pasted a cliche from a Google search! What is she supposed to do with that? How is that a conversation?

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          You know I’ve never, or at least very rarely, used pick up lines or jokes to initiate conversations on dating apps and it’s been fine? It’s kind of the worst way to start an actual conversation IMHO but you do you. I never once mentioned jokes or pick up lines and it’s weird you brought it up lol

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        Ha big doenvotes from the incel faction.

        It’s always so funny when people push these obvious self tells, like yeah you’re not going to be a good match with everyone so a lot of conversations die but as soon as someone starts blaming an entire gender for not being able to hold a conversation its a pretty clear sign they’re the problem.