• VelvetStorm@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    I’ve always gotten women way out of my league because they like my personality, and they say I’m a nice person and they feel safe with me. Guys, women have the bar set pretty dam low. Just use active listening, actually care about them beyond just their body, respect them, and it helps to have fun, interesting hobby, and to really like animals. Like that’s it, fellas. I’m in my late 30s, and my last girlfriend was in her mid-20s and way outta my league. Now it didn’t work because we are at different points in our lives, but that’s nbd.

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      4 months ago

      I agree with you on that, but I usually get stuck in the just friends portion of the whole thing. Maybe I am a little too ugly?

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        Nah, the thing is, you need to declare your intentions fairly early on. Like with in the first few times you hang out.

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          4 months ago

          Exactly, if you wait too long making the leap of faith, more often then not you will be already in the friend zone

    • AwkwardLookMonkeyPuppet@lemmy.world
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      4 months ago

      Another thing is that a lot of really hot women don’t actually get picked up on very often, because most guys assume she’s out of their league. So if you put yourself out there, ya might be pleasantly surprised by the outcome.

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      4 months ago

      I don’t like this being a focal point, but I think it’s worth asking if you don’t mind: what is your income like? Reality being what it is, that can make a measurable difference.