I haven’t started hormones yet so I definitely have masculine traits. Anyway I was at a party and presenting very feminine otherwise, and I got misgendered. I gently corrected the person and that was it.

I think a lot of cis people are defaulting to they them, in an effort to not assume. But they don’t realize that itself is an assumption.

What I would like though is more people just asking what pronouns I prefer. And I hope we’ll get there soon, but yeah cis people don’t understand that it’s okay to ask and I had to explain it to cis friend of mine who was not sure how they should gender somebody that was presenting very gender neutral that they had recently met. So I told her just to ask.

Which is what I do in trans spaces and with other gender non-conforming folk. I just ask.