As a reminder, be sure to properly give content warnings and put sensitive subjects behind proper spoiler tags. It’s for the mental health of not just your comrades, but yourself as well.
Here is a screenshot of where to find the spoiler button.
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I just want people to look at me and think “damn that’s a girl.”, yaknow? Even if I don’t pass (realistically no way I’ll ever fully pass in queer spaces), just like, know what I’m going for. Honestly I think its because of that not passing that makes me upset.
The everyone and consistently is a big thing for me. I’m surprised you’ve heard cis people complaining about it, I feel like I see trans people complaining about them more. That might be skewed by where I’m hanging out online though.
No it all sounds very reasonable, and I agree. I got very worked up.
I think it’s worth interrogating this feeling. I’m someone who will probably never “pass”, but I’ve found immense solidarity with (especially racialised) cis women who will also never be looked at and perceived that way, since to some extent you have to adhere to white beauty standards to be seen as “that girl” who is worth loving and protecting on-sight. Looking into the connection between fatphobia and racism helped me unpack this a lot.
Of course I could just be interpreting your feelings through the lens of my own experience, so take it as you will.
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