I think you overestimate the standards of swingers, who often are not especially attractive, but will groom themselves to seem more attractive than they are when they’re hitting on people outside their circle.
Granted, you have to be attractive to get into Hollywood swinging parties, and especially rich swingers will look for less-rich young hot people to populate their swinging parties (usually with a personal interest in having a chance to smash that) but for the rest of usthemus them, they want to to look slightly better than the Elephant Man, but do come clean, relatively well groomed (mind your nails, please) and if you can afford to dress nice, please do so. (No one denied access due to lack of funds.)
Far more important than being good looking in the alt-sex communities I’ve experienced has been attitude and personality. This is one place that my own vampiric obsession with consent has really served me well.
Swinging parties on cruises may be different. There is absolutely a phenomenon in which poor, antisocial behavior that parallels aristocratic problems, becomes distressingly common on cruises. (Note, I’ve never been on a cruise, but have affluent parents who do, and can be snobbish themselves. From what I’ve read about cruise experiences, they sound dreadful in their opulence, hazards and wastefulness during a global pollution crisis) But then, cruises are expensive, and so the Venn diagram of obnoxious cruise passengers and affluent folk who are obnoxious off-cruise as well has a large area of intersection.
Far more important than being good looking in the alt-sex communities I’ve experienced has been attitude and personality.
Can confirm. Been part of local kink communities, and I’ve seen a few dudes about 2.5 steps up from the elephant man trimmed all to hell because dude had a great personality and knew how to use his implements. I don’t consider myself to be the best looking, but I don’t have any trouble for the same reason.
Swinging parties on cruises may be different. There is absolutely a phenomenon in which poor, antisocial behavior that parallels aristocratic problems, becomes distressingly common on cruises.
In my experience, that’s swinging parties, and to a lesser extent, the underlying culture in itself in a lot of places.
In a previous life, our local kink and swinging scenes shared a building with connected event spaces, and any time there were overlapping events, consent issues inevitably cropped up. We constantly had complaints about people grabbing others or walking into scenes (and we had to not laugh when they inevitably got hit and complained about their lack of situational awareness).
who often are not especially attractive, but will groom themselves to seem more attractive than they are
They take care of their appearance? Talk about false advertising, I only consider sexual partners who look hot after they took a dive in liquid manure!
I think the point was that they usually don’t, but make an exception for these situations.
Imagine the kind of wife beater fatass who lives life with skidmarks and shirt stains from spaghetti and barbeque sauce, limping to the bathroom on a Friday night to take his second shower of the week, grease up his hair, and put on his jeans and leather jacket before going out.
I think you overestimate the standards of swingers, who often are not especially attractive, but will groom themselves to seem more attractive than they are when they’re hitting on people outside their circle.
Granted, you have to be attractive to get into Hollywood swinging parties, and especially rich swingers will look for less-rich young hot people to populate their swinging parties (usually with a personal interest in having a chance to smash that) but for the rest of
usthemusthem, they want to to look slightly better than the Elephant Man, but do come clean, relatively well groomed (mind your nails, please) and if you can afford to dress nice, please do so. (No one denied access due to lack of funds.)Far more important than being good looking in the alt-sex communities I’ve experienced has been attitude and personality. This is one place that my own vampiric obsession with consent has really served me well.
Swinging parties on cruises may be different. There is absolutely a phenomenon in which poor, antisocial behavior that parallels aristocratic problems, becomes distressingly common on cruises. (Note, I’ve never been on a cruise, but have affluent parents who do, and can be snobbish themselves. From what I’ve read about cruise experiences, they sound dreadful in their opulence, hazards and wastefulness during a global pollution crisis) But then, cruises are expensive, and so the Venn diagram of obnoxious cruise passengers and affluent folk who are obnoxious off-cruise as well has a large area of intersection.
Can confirm. Been part of local kink communities, and I’ve seen a few dudes about 2.5 steps up from the elephant man trimmed all to hell because dude had a great personality and knew how to use his implements. I don’t consider myself to be the best looking, but I don’t have any trouble for the same reason.
In my experience, that’s swinging parties, and to a lesser extent, the underlying culture in itself in a lot of places.
In a previous life, our local kink and swinging scenes shared a building with connected event spaces, and any time there were overlapping events, consent issues inevitably cropped up. We constantly had complaints about people grabbing others or walking into scenes (and we had to not laugh when they inevitably got hit and complained about their lack of situational awareness).
They take care of their appearance? Talk about false advertising, I only consider sexual partners who look hot after they took a dive in liquid manure!
I think the point was that they usually don’t, but make an exception for these situations.
Imagine the kind of wife beater fatass who lives life with skidmarks and shirt stains from spaghetti and barbeque sauce, limping to the bathroom on a Friday night to take his second shower of the week, grease up his hair, and put on his jeans and leather jacket before going out.
Not that bad, probably, but in that direction.