She has her in profile she’s gay and taken and she still has weirdo creepy lurkers on that sub dming her and trying to hit on her.

Like one time a dude messaged her 'What’s up? I’m 6’1." Trying to dick wave like she’d be impressed

Do all subreddits geared towards women have latent incel creepers stalking profiles?

Pretty gross lurking as a creeper dude in a place where people go looking for advice about their body.

  • Yor [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    42·
    3 months ago

    any time you post anything vulnerable as woman online you’re rolling the dice some creepy guy will treat that as an invitation to message you

    • RyanGosling [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
      14·
      3 months ago

      I remember this being a major problem on the depression/loneliness/mental illness subs. Lots of young people, particularly girls, make posts complaining about how they thought they found friends online after someone dms them only to end up being some crypto scam or creep

    • FearsomeJoeandmac [he/him, he/him]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
      30·
      3 months ago

      I don’t go on reddit that much. Good riddance too

      What balls these freaks have when she states she’s gay on her profile.

      I just hung out with her earlier and the messages she showed me were both pathetic and weird.

      I’m sure glad I had sisters man. I think it instilled in me a respect for women a lot of guys don’t have

      • RyanGosling [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
        8·
        3 months ago

        Lol these people think with their dicks. You can literally put “I am a serial killer and will castrate you and eat it” on your profile, but if there’s even a hint of boobs mentioned then some guy will send his dick pic and address

      • ashinadash [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
        2·
        3 months ago

        What balls these freaks have when she states she’s gay on her profile.

        Never once has this stopped the enterprising creepy man, sadly

    • FearsomeJoeandmac [he/him, he/him]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
      14·
      3 months ago

      That sucks. I’ve always been friends with you and talked about monster hunter without feeling the need to be like ‘sup bb’ I know you are they/them also.

      I’m sure it has something to do with growing up with little sisters that’s helped me not like… view women as like… pleasure boxes like some deeply disturbed guys do and see they’re sentient beings with agency like myself.

      • Awoo [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
        9·
        3 months ago

        I’m sure it has something to do with growing up with little sisters

        Interestingly there is a bunch of research into birth order and psychology showing that both men and women differ in behaviour based on having older/younger brothers and/or sisters. For example I remember some research showing boys with older sisters are less competitive.

        Anecdotal but it’s very obvious that people with sisters are different in behaviour to those without them. They have a less misogynistic vibe going on. This is offset though by the fact they’re also well practiced at being annoying in ways others aren’t rofl. Can always tell when a guy has practice annoying their little sister because they carry it into the way they interact with other women like their little sister.

  • GaveUp [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    25·
    3 months ago

    Finding out there’s a big boobs problem sub is pretty funny

    I’m assuming the issues there are a lot more real like back pain than the big dick problems where it’s just a bunch of sad men bragging about their supposedly big dick?

    • FearsomeJoeandmac [he/him, he/him]@hexbear.netOPEnglish
      13·
      3 months ago

      Yeah, she just has had problems finding finding bras and shit since middle school. I’m sure it’s one of those cathartic places to post where people all have a similar issue.

      Kind of like this place and myself. If I have a question you guys always answer me fairly quickly and compassionately.

      Either way I remember dudes being creepy in high school as well. Got into a couple fist fights over it.

      So it goes I suppose, you stick up for your siblings.

      • Pili [any, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
        20·
        3 months ago

        being painful for some people to have sex with you

        This is the only actual problem I believe. You know you have to keep the intercourse short otherwise it will be painful. You can always finish it off without penetration of course so it’s not a huge problem, but it still hurts intimacy quite a bit.

        Other than that:

        • The penis can touch inside the toilet bowl when you sit on it, which isn’t great hygienically.
        • And if you go to the swimming pool with your class as a kid, your classmates will laugh at your bulge.

        So nothing actually disabling unlike big boobs problems, just some annoyance and being limited in certain sexual practices. I’ve never heard of someone getting dick reduction surgery to fix their pain so it can’t be that problematic.

        • UrsineApathy [any, comrade/them]@hexbear.netEnglish
          22·
          3 months ago

          This is all mostly true in my experiences. The sexual aspects being the most impactful and otherwise just being careful about how you dress, which is more of a slight inconvenience sometimes than an actual problem, but there are others.

          • There’s no such thing as a quickie because of how much warmup is required and then once you’re down to business chafing becomes a serious issue very quickly if you’re not careful.
          • Most alternative sexual acts to PIV(and even that) are out of the question or difficult and unsatisfying with some women.
          • You can’t use standard condoms without risking breakage and need to use very expensive brands or custom order them(and they still don’t fit right).
          • Depending on how far up the spectrum you are, staying erect without medical help can be difficult, but this is more of a fringe issue.
          • Wearing good underwear is required otherwise nothing is left to the imagination. For example, I generally can’t wear sweatpants or swimwear in polite company without taking extra precautions. In a similar vein tight clothes also present a similar issue and are more uncomfortable.
          • A lot of people don’t realize the self esteem issues that usually come along with it. It sucks to literally have an otherwise great relationship ruined because you physically cannot have sex with a partner.
          • A lot of men end up with weird dysmorphia issues. You don’t even realize it’s an issue until you’re well into adulthood because porn has ruined people’s expectations. If you’re not 12 inches long, you’re not big. I didn’t even realize the extent of the problems it caused until I was in my late 20’s because until that point I actually thought I was small…
          • You will never receive any sympathy for any of these issues and talking about it will get you laughed at in most circles.
          • Pili [any, any]@hexbear.netEnglish
            2·
            3 months ago

            Depending on how far up the spectrum you are, staying erect without medical help can be difficult, but this is more of a fringe issue.

            Hmmm this point is interesting because I had some issues with that too so I looked it up, and it seems that there is absolutely no correlation between penis size and ED. But I imagine there is probably some unnoticed anxiety due to a fear of potentially hurting our partner, if that happened to us in the past.

      • RyanGosling [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
        11·
        3 months ago

        One common complaint among sex workers is that guys with big dicks won’t listen or won’t believe them when they say it hurts because the guys just want to imitate what they see in porn

  • booty [he/him]@hexbear.netEnglish
    21·
    3 months ago

    Yeah that’s just how it is. Any sub where it’s mostly women posting, pretty much every post will get the OP DMs from random guys who didn’t read their post or profile at all. You could go on one of those subs and include in your post “by the way I’m a 7 foot tall man with a disorder which causes me to constantly ooze blood from every orifice and a different condition which causes thick hair on every inch of skin” and you’d still get messages that begin with “hey bb girl ;)”

  • Pandantic [they/them]@midwest.socialEnglish
    19·
    3 months ago

    I used to post on a message board where girl-only subs were locked out by photo verification and were policed for harassment very heavily. It’s a shame r*ddit dgaf…

  • SwitchyWitchyandBitchy [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    15·
    3 months ago

    Do all subreddits geared towards women have latent incel creepers stalking profiles?

    Yes. As long as I’ve been on it, Reddit has been bursting with creeps.

    I remember how many redditors lost their shit when r/jailbait got banned. Times haven’t changed that much.

  • RyanGosling [none/use name]@hexbear.netEnglish
    11·
    3 months ago

    Yes they do. I once asked in a fashion sub about the quality of a piece, and someone recommended I go to a particular female fashion sub to ask since the piece was popular there (or something of that nature)

    So I went there and the first thing I saw was a pinned PSA about blocking DMs from guys, especially since much of the sub was on the younger side and these were pedos