How insecure can you be? Everyone was ordering beers but I didn’t feel like drinken, so I ordered tea. I guess my masculinity is in shambles right now.

Guys, drink whatever you want.

    • DankZedong @lemmygrad.mlOP
      34·
      1 year ago

      For real. I’m 6’2 and work out 4 times a week. Even then some guys think you’re not men enough if you don’t tick all their silly boxes.ust be a miserable life.

      Edit: not that I think those measurements are manly either. The only qualification for being manly is identifying as one.

      • all star [he/him]@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
        19·
        1 year ago

        Stuff like what you’ve posted about others expectations and their arbitrary boxes really exemplifies how people use gender roles to seek some sort of self validation. It’s funny how if you ask someone who cares deeply about their male identity what being a “man” is, it always conveniently aligns exactly with themselves, no need for self adjustment

    • chemicalprophet
      123·
      1 year ago

      Real men people forge their own path, never caring what those around them think.

      “Ok, one mint tea please”

      No not like that

      FTFY

      • all star [he/him]@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
        18·
        1 year ago

        Sure, sorry if the tone wasn’t clear on my original post, it was made mocking people who think like that, people like the ones laughing at the tea in the first place. I personally have no interest in prescriptive gender or personhood definitions

        • ImOnADiet@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
          8·
          1 year ago

          probably could just make it clearer like this:

          Reactionary: Real men forge their own path, never caring what those around them think.

          Me: Ok, one mint tea please

          Reactionary:: No not like that

      • Calavera
        111·
        1 year ago

        I think you broke it rather than fixed it