So basically I said I just wanted space for some time. She took this as that she’s never allowed to talk to me again.

Yesterday her lover(26M), which is also a friend of mine, I’ve known for a long time, came to talk to me and told me this. He also doesn’t want to do anything with me until I start being friends with her again, because he thinks he’s standing between us.

I tried doing activities with both of them together, but somehow it always makes me miserable to see her happy with someone else.

Next week is a festival where we planned to go together and I lined everything up to see how things are going or in which direction we can move from here. For info: Another girl is also going with us I think the dynamic would change a bit. There’s also a lot of other people I know at the festival.

I feel like I should just talk to 20F, but I don’t think I will tell her anything she want’s to hear. So I don’t know if this can improve the situation in any way.

  • Sunbrrnslapper@vlemmy.net
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    1 year ago

    Sounds like you aren’t ready to resume the friendship - and that’s ok! It is also ok to never be ready. Let your friend 26m know you aren’t ready yet. A good friend will understand. Either skip the festival or go with a different group. Best of luck!!