Yes, I agree. Despite my statement sounding absolutist, I know they are out there. I suspect they are quite rare. I know I’ve never met one, based on experience. I’m sure some of the women I’ve met are those types but there’s no way for me to know without playing that game of Russian roulette.
Brother I think you might be overthinking it. When two people properly quick, money/income doesn’t matter as long as y’all are a proper fit and you’re able to make life work together happily.
Thats not a product of women collectively deciding to marry someone richer. That’s a product of the gender pay gap (not what most people think it is) and patriarchy (which hurts men too).
In places where women are not systemically dissuaded from high paying jobs, make as much as men do, have maternity and paternity leave, spousal incomes are about equal.
I disagree with that assertion, and I’ve seen this play out many times, with that nearly exact statement being the opening salvo. I will not engage and be drawn into a political debate that never ends well for anybody.
There is plenty of evidence concerning the difference between a blanket comparison of gross pay by gender vs pay comparisons in the same field of work - and I leave it to anybody who is curious to seek out that evidence on their own and draw their own conclusions.
Note my original question was not refuted, but justification was given.
Uhhh, I’m a Xennial and this hits hard. I am basically paying for her mortgage with the amount of money I have to give my ex every month. She has always had zero ambition, so I was always getting raises, and by the time we split, our finances were in two very different places, so the court said I have the luxury of paying her monthly just to be rid of her.
You got screwed then if you’re in the usa, spousal alimony is basically non-existent. Most states don’t have it anymore and those that do have it for about a year.
I’m well aware of how screwed I got… I’m hoping that in the next year or so I’ll be able to re-litigate with a different lawyer. I was so desperate to get out of that marriage, I took some bad advice.
My biggest problem is that my life hasn’t been the most stable since I left her. The sick amount of money I have to give her every month certainly hasn’t helped.
I don’t mean to be a downer, but this is a Boomer meme.
Wife bad
ExWife.
Also alimony can be given to the man as well if he decided to be the homemaker or stay at home parent.
Whoever gets paid more is the one who ends up owing down, doesn’t matter if you have a dick or wind chimes down there.
How many women do you know who marry men who make less than they?
I know a small handful, they do exist
Yes, I agree. Despite my statement sounding absolutist, I know they are out there. I suspect they are quite rare. I know I’ve never met one, based on experience. I’m sure some of the women I’ve met are those types but there’s no way for me to know without playing that game of Russian roulette.
Brother I think you might be overthinking it. When two people properly quick, money/income doesn’t matter as long as y’all are a proper fit and you’re able to make life work together happily.
I’m not an idiot. That was my belief for a long time. Experience showed me that doe not “just happen”.
Thats not a product of women collectively deciding to marry someone richer. That’s a product of the gender pay gap (not what most people think it is) and patriarchy (which hurts men too).
In places where women are not systemically dissuaded from high paying jobs, make as much as men do, have maternity and paternity leave, spousal incomes are about equal.
I disagree with that assertion, and I’ve seen this play out many times, with that nearly exact statement being the opening salvo. I will not engage and be drawn into a political debate that never ends well for anybody.
There is plenty of evidence concerning the difference between a blanket comparison of gross pay by gender vs pay comparisons in the same field of work - and I leave it to anybody who is curious to seek out that evidence on their own and draw their own conclusions.
Note my original question was not refuted, but justification was given.
Should it matter?
Yeah but it’s actually relatable. I wasn’t even married and I went through something like this
Uhhh, I’m a Xennial and this hits hard. I am basically paying for her mortgage with the amount of money I have to give my ex every month. She has always had zero ambition, so I was always getting raises, and by the time we split, our finances were in two very different places, so the court said I have the luxury of paying her monthly just to be rid of her.
You got screwed then if you’re in the usa, spousal alimony is basically non-existent. Most states don’t have it anymore and those that do have it for about a year.
I’m well aware of how screwed I got… I’m hoping that in the next year or so I’ll be able to re-litigate with a different lawyer. I was so desperate to get out of that marriage, I took some bad advice.
My biggest problem is that my life hasn’t been the most stable since I left her. The sick amount of money I have to give her every month certainly hasn’t helped.
Does she work? What state are you in? You shouldn’t be paying her at all really. Alimony has really lost its teeth in the last 10 years.
I got screwed too, because we have a child. If he has one, he is screwed until the kid finishes college or is 25 yo.
He also pays in full even if he has 50% custody. Here in america, woman good man bad.
Certainly it sounds like you’re bad.
It’s your kid, why shouldn’t you be happily paying for his or her life?
Only boomers have bad marriages? Or is it because someone who was famous before you were born should never be shown in a meme?
Or is it boomer because you don’t get it?
Thinking all the shit is his instead of martial assets to be equally split. Is some wife bad boomer humor is I believe the point.