And yet the inherent assumption remains; either people agree with you, or they don’t actually understand the concepts you are promulgating, or they are objectively evil and malintentioned.

I would argue that there is in fact a third alternative wherein people of perfectly good faith fully understand your arguments but still find them wanting or unsatisfactory on well-reasoned and logical grounds.

It’s your insistence on rejecting this third possibility that I find so objectionable and fallacious.