This short video has changed my life.
This is kinda embarrassing because someone asked me a few days ago what my favorite food was and I said I don’t have a favorite food lmao. I didn’t have time to explain to him that I can’t answer that question because the evaluation of what my favorite food is is contingent on whether food prep and cleanup counts towards evaluating my favorite food. Aw shit, I should’ve answered his question with a “do you consider ease of food prep and cleanup as part of what makes food your favorite food or do you just consider the eating part of the food?” clarifying question. It honestly would be a better approach to getting to know him instead of answering with some random food like tomato soup.
I definitely think for most (NT) people if they ask about your favorite food they probably mean the eating part.
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I wish they’d phrase it differently, I always freeze up when I’m asked a “favorite” because my brain starts trying to figure out what I like the most
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Yeah I try to interpret it that way now and usually try to think of what I’m into in the moment. Favorite movie halts my brain tho lmao, I always want to answer Interstellar and then I just argue with myself in my head
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If that is the case that can also change depending on my mood. Like lately I have been getting crispy tacos from a local taqueria that are bomb as fuck, but that’s because it’s right on my way to work. After eating that for 5 days straight I’m kinda sick of it and want to hit up the deli by my house for a sandwich. And that’s just lunch!
Are we talking restaurant or self made?
Also what about snacks? I don’t really like potato chips on their own, but I find them essential when paired with my sandwich, so does my favorite sandwich include not just the contents of the sandwich itself but the chips, which enhance the sandwich eating experience too?
Yes! That would have been the perfect follow up question. It’s not just some information that overall tells only little about you, and then on to the next question. Instead it defers giving that information, making it more interesting to hear it later. But for now, in the process of getting to know you it shows a little how you think, which helps with the underlying motivation — getting to know you — much more.
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HOLY SHIT.
I literally had this exact experience the last time I went on a date.
People really just want to get to know you at the end of the day. I had to learn to -NOT- attach a spike to my shield when talking with people. I had to re-evaluate almost everything in the last few years. It’s been rough.
I try to keep to a basic core tenet, though. If I have the ability to overthink or think too literally, then most people do too. I developed this weird sense of audacity to assume that most people are simple creatures with nothing beyond surface thoughts. It’s wrong and silly to think like that. I had to reconcile what I believed in my heart, and what was swimming around in my head. When I started to reduce that “audacity” I had developed, love started to take its place little by little. If love could fill my heart just the same as audacity can, then most people have that ability too.
I still have my spiked shield on my back, so to speak, but I don’t use it that often, if at all. Gotta save that shit for when it really matters.
Oh.
Ikr???
Did you know that when someone asks if you’re hungry, they don’t actually really want to know if you are hungry, they’re asking you to accompany them while they eat.
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I just learned about the hungry thing a few months ago, and it made me realize how many of these small interactions I’ve been getting wrong for the entirety of my four-decade existence.
It didn’t even occur to me then that this “favorite thing” conversation was also something I was misinterpreting.
Does anybody know if there’s a list somewhere?? Do I need to just watch all of this particular channel?
My only irl neurodivergent friend said she learns a lot about interaction from reading fiction, but I’ve been an avid reader my whole life and there’s still so much I don’t understand that’s seemingly obvious to everyone else. It’s becoming a little distressing, tbqh.
Did you know that when someone asks if you’re hungry, they don’t actually really want to know if you are hungry, they’re asking you to accompany them while they eat.
My easy fix for that is that i’m always hungry, or at least i could always go eat.
Also, when you bump into people in public and they say “we should hang out sometime!” Or “let’s get coffee sometime!” It’s usually just a niceity and they don’t actually want to meet up with you. That bummed me out and gave me relief equally lol
Ohhhhhh… I’ve actually been carrying guilt this whole time about not making all those plans happen.
Thank you. ❤️ I needed this one.
Glad I could help
omfg. I never put 2 and 2 together. they are just trying to get to know me
“So, where are you from?”
ohshitohfuckwahtdotheymean?WhereIlivenow?WhereI’veeverlived?WhereIwasborn?Yes, I always answer with “I don’t have a favorite favorite but I have a top list…but that always changes” lol. Or “right now my favorite is…” because I’d get wayyyy too deep into that question.
Fucking God…
So I just got my soft diagnosis yesterday after being self diagged for like a decade.
I don’t have a favorite song or movie. I love horror movies, extreme metal and hard electronic music.
But like I love all aspects of those things and could never really settle on any favorites. Like after I realized people had favorite things in a hobby space or whatever I went out of my way to pick a few movies or whatever that I deemed worthy of my praise above others but those weren’t my favorites unconditionally.
Is this like legitimately a thing?
You aren’t supposed to actually look people in their eyes when talking. When someone asks how your day is, you are supposed to reciprocate instead of just expecting them to tell you. When you receive a gift at Christmas you are supposed to say thank you and that you love it.
