My old person trait is that I think ‘ghosting’ is completely unacceptable and you owe the other person a face-to-face conversation.

    • Cosmic Cleric@lemmy.world
      11·
      1 year ago

      Yep, my son and I have that dynamic going on.

      Bothers the hell out of me when he doesn’t reply and to him he can’t understand why he should reply to me in a timely manner.

      I think it just comes down to our generation was trained it’s rude to ignore someone, where the newer generations think it’s totally okay to ghost someone temporarily.

      Socially I just can’t wrap my head around that, but sure why not, 21st century etc. etc.

      • brave_lemmywinks@lemmy.world
        61·
        1 year ago

        Probably much older than your son, but I do the same. I don’t view an instant message as a call to action, if it’s indeed urgent, just call me.

        • Cosmic Cleric@lemmy.world
          11·
          1 year ago

          No one is saying that within the first 10 seconds of receiving a text message a conversation response has to be done. Don’t be pedantic.

          But if you receive the text message and you’re too busy to have a conversation just respond with a "Hey I’ll get back to you later " so you are not leaving the person hanging.

          Always respond back, with either a start of a conversation, or a postponement of a conversation. Or else why the f did you bother letting them have your phone number in the first place, if you’re never going to answer their text messages?

          TLDR: don’t leave someone hanging. If you don’t have the time to converse with them right now tell them that like you would do face to face in person.

          • void
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            1 year ago

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            • Cosmic Cleric@lemmy.world
              11·
              1 year ago

              Just for the record, because you’re mostly just foaming at the mouth at this point, and have never met me, or know anything about me to make the presumptions you’re making, but my son is his own person, and he never responds back quickly.

              And when I talk to him about it he understands my position but he disagrees with me.

              I feel it’s a disrespect, but I honor him and let him do whatever he wants as he’s his own person.

              I would just reiterate if you allow somebody an avenue to communicate with you, it’s rude when they try to communicate with you and you don’t respond.

                • Cosmic Cleric@lemmy.world
                  11·
                  1 year ago

                  I’m big on not branding someone in a “Kill the Messenger” sort if way, but the tone of your replies shows me that you’re overly emotional and not intellectually honest in the conversation.

                  Your nitpicking on points just to make your point in a strawman sort if way, and how you are not trying to consider the real meaning of the points I’m trying to make, is visible for all to see.

                  It’s just not worth my time to correspond with you anymore, you’re trying to protect your ability to be rude to others who have your cell number for texting reasons, no matter what, just to make your own personal life easier.

                  For the record, I disagree with the points you’re making, you are incorrect In them.

                  Carry on, Internet Warrior.