That’s probably me minus the misogyny.

I did the whole self-improvement meme, got fit, lost weight, made friends, joined social groups, cut my hair, got a skincare routine, clothes that fit, etc etc. While it did help me make become more outgoing, I’m just too unattractive to realistically get a relationship. I even got a couple of first dates after talking to some folks on Discord. We got along great, bantered, and even had a nice emotional connection. Then we meet up and they see my face and suddenly it gets awkward. There’s a look in their eyes when you go from a potential partner to ugly friend that just hurts.

90% of non-misogynist incels would be good partners, but no one wants to date them. A significant reason why 2/3rds of young men are single and 1/3rd of young women are single is because a subset of women prefer to date the same man with the hope that eventually they’ll be exclusive. That or they’re unaware that the men they’re after are casually dating other women. Unattractive men are invisible, the only chance they have is personality. But personality means very little in a dating market that’s very young and using mostly apps. If these people could get dates, they’d have a relationship eventually. But getting dates as an unattractive man is almost impossible.

It does get a bit better for men when you’re older but I’d be too bitter at that point. Knowing that the only reason you’d be given a chance is because everyone’s old, less attractive, and wanting to settle down is a poison that would eat away at me. Even if my partner sincerely thought I was a catch after getting to know me, it still hurts to be the last of someone’s options.

I’ll probably never get a partner and that sucks. But I do have friends and hobbies to work towards.

“Okay I’ll vote for Trump then since they’re the exact same in your eyes.”

Then they immediately back pedal and start hemming and hawing over definitions.

Unironically, I think this will be good. Not a masterpiece but a better than average slop-fest.

It’s weird reading fan-translation done by high school kids from 15 years ago. This person is talking about exams in their little blurb at the end and I’m like this person is now 35 years old.

Butter, that is peanut butter.

I eat like 5 tbps of the stuff a day and toast is a good way to eat it.

This has always been a thing with the souls games. There’s a massive amount of information to take in about game systems, item interactions, weird secrets. Going to community websites and wikis to share information and work things out has been part of the experience the whole time.

They went way overboard with Elden Ring. I could upgrade the first weapon I find in DS1 to + 25 and beat the final boss without worrying about anything. In Elden Ring, I could be 30 hours into a playthrough and my main sword swings too slowly to punish a boss so I have to look at the wiki for upgrade materials or alternatively find the weird item which stuns the boss halfway across the map hidden behind an unrelated NPC quest.

Elden Ring built their bosses around the idea that you have the wiki on hand. “Does this boss have enough openings? Eh who cares they can just respec or find the shackle on the wiki.”

If you have a friend who’s chronically late, tell them 6:30 if you want to meet at 7.

But in the case that you do actually show up at 6:30, then I look like an absolute ass. If you are chronically late and you agree to meet at a certain time, how about you plan to be there early instead? If you plan to meet at 6:30, you can plan to arrive at 6:15. If it’s okay for other people to wait for you, why wouldn’t it be okay for you to wait instead? You can check your phone and read a book while you wait. Sounds like everyone should be happy.

I say this as someone who was chronically late for years. I have to put everything I need in my car hours before I plan to leave because otherwise I would forget. I have to set 2 alarms on my phone to remind me when to leave. Sometimes I’m still late, but it’s always within 5 minutes. I do all this because my friends shouldn’t be inconvenienced for something that’s my responsibility to plan around. Fuck your boss though, who gives a shit about being on time for work.

I think she has the best chance of winning but ironically she has the same major liability that Joe Biden had, that is being associated with Joe Biden.

Almost any attack Trump could make against Biden, barring being senile, works for Harris because she was literally in the administration. The portion of the populace that votes to punish the current president for economic downturns will hate her almost as much as Biden.

Anyone that even critically supported succdems should be fucking embarrassed rn.

I can’t believe the fire-brand “left” are one of the few groups still going to bat for genocide Joe.

“95% of being president is making gmail accounts to spam your supporters for money” - A Friend

Okay, but also all the white “feminist” Hilldawg people would absolutely seethe for her term and that would be really funny.

Does anyone else just get the urge to maim themselves sometimes?

Sometimes I think “I should lose an eye” or “I should chop off my thumbs” and I don’t understand why.

By the time the bottom of the crust is golden brown and crispy, the cheese would be burnt if you put it in all at once. Alternatively, you end up with a soggy crust but perfect cheese.

So instead you crisp up the bottom first, and then get the cheese and toppings melted.

Cardio. It’s the only thing that can reset my brain when its overwhelmed.

After that, I have to shower. When that’s done, my appetite is stimulated enough to force me to cook. Eat with whatever’s on TV and it’s already 7:30. Do what I want until bed since I’m relaxed from the shower, cardio, and dinner.

At the time, it was an actual good cartoon kid’s cartoon at a time when animation nerds had sparse pickings. The show was designed with a primary audience of young girls but they also added elements to appeal to parents. As a phenomenon, it’s similar to Bluey.

Plus, it was made by the same people who did Foster’s Home and Power Puff Girls, of course it’s a good show.

Here’s some tips I have as a lifelong suffer of bad acne.

1. You have to scrub your face with the cleaner. Think of it like washing the dishes, you can’t just pour soup on a dirty dish and rinse it off. You gotta put some elbow grease into it. Don’t irritate the skin of course, but if your pores don’t look cleaner after a wash then you’re probably not scrubbing enough.

2. Stop touching your face. Wash your hands more too.

3. Change the pillowcase / bed sheets twice a week, you might have to do it more or less but change the darn pillowcase.

Seconding cardio. You lose weight by cutting calories but you maintain it with exercise. Jogging for an hour burns almost 600 calories depending on your weight. That’s an entire extra meal’s worth of calories.

I was here since the first day, the infighting and drama was way worse after the name change.

It’s only really in the past year or so that they’ve calmed down tbh.

Are there any guides to using grindr safely?

I’ve heard some nasty shit about the distance based stuff being used to track people and I’d prefer to not be murdered.

Lots of younger queer groups have a discord. You can get to know people before meeting them in person. Also helps filters out groups filled with gay but shitty people.

Pop in and see if you vibe. Low risk, and they’ll probably have information on meetups.