May be an incident where they could not understand how much things they take for granted cost to the normies, a flagrant disregard for morals or ethics, a blatant show of arrogance or disconnectedness, or anything yould like to share.

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    I realized rich people just sort of assume they’re going to get help when they ask for it, so I started behaving this way and people are so much more helpful.

    Like, here’s a poor person:

    What the fuck is going on with the air conditioning in my room? I paid $150 to stay here and I think there should be air conditioning in my room and this whole fucking vacation is a nightmare and I’m gonna leave the nastiest review if you don’t …

    The poor person immediately assumes it’s a fight.

    Here’s a rich person:

    Looks like the AC’s gone out in my room. Could you please send someone up to take a look at it?

    They just assume, from the get-go, that they’ll have full cooperation. It doesn’t cross their mind that someone might fight them on it.

    I’ve found that this approach works wonders.

    And even things that aren’t already “part of the deal” so to speak. Like:

    You don’t happen to have a stand-up lamp I could put in this corner do you?

    Like, a poor person would never even conceive that they could get extra furniture in that hotel room. A rich person just assumes all the resources available are at hand to help.

    The staff will then go to their own office, or grab the stand-up lamp out of the lobby, something like that.

    I dunno. I believe in social and economic mobility, and I think rich is a feedback loop between attitude and outcomes.

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      It sounds like you’re just describing asking nicely vs. being an asshole. Poor people can have manners, too. Rich people can be assholes.

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      Good point. I do think the hotel might charge for the additional amenities though. The ac thing they’d probably just switch your room. But yeah, from personal experience, not being a dick gets you some milage.

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      What you’re describing has nothing to do with poor vs rich.

      Your belief in social and economic mobility indicates this is your cooping mechanism.

      You are finding a way to blame poor people for their inequality. That’s a much better example of the difference between poor and rich thinking.

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            It seems to me like they are saying, I seem to notice this behavior among the wealthy, and it seemed to me like they were behaving this way because of a general expectation. Then they tried engaging with the world using this new seeming realization.

            Of course we can’t read others minds but in this example they took an experience they perceived and tried using / mimicking said behavior and they are saying they noticed results.

            I hear what you’re saying but I don’t think your assessment is accurate

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              I argue this isn’t an observation on one’s monetary wealth but rather their self worth.

              The topic of the post isn’t about how to act rich but rather how the rich act in ways that differ from those without that status. Anyone can have a high self worth.

              Claiming that people who are poor earn it by having lesser self worth is a way to blame the poor for being poor.

              It is a dangerous line of reasoning that I felt worth pointing out.

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                I hear what you are saying but I don’t think their intention is to blame poor people for being poor.

                As someone who grew up in poverty and has managed to claw my way out (still lower middle class, but above the median household income for my state just barely with my partner) I can relate to the anecdote the post described.

                Going out to a restaurant when I was younger I would never have complained about anything. I’ve seen wealthier friends complain about too much butter on their toast…. Another anecdote, but I think there is some legitimacy to what the poster was trying to describe.

                Poverty is looked down upon and with it often times comes a sense of self loathing. Acknowledging this is not blaming the poors for their own plight in my opinion.

                But again I do see what you are pointing at.