makeasnek@lemmy.ml to Asklemmy@lemmy.mlEnglish · 1 month agoPeople younger than 30, what advice would you give to people over 30?message-squaremessage-square129fedilinkarrow-up1206arrow-down119
arrow-up1187arrow-down1message-squarePeople younger than 30, what advice would you give to people over 30?makeasnek@lemmy.ml to Asklemmy@lemmy.mlEnglish · 1 month agomessage-square129fedilink
minus-squareintensely_humanlinkfedilinkarrow-up2·1 month agoYou can also love the parts you’re going to change, as you change them. You don’t have to turn off the love to do surgery.
minus-squarecaptainlezbian@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkarrow-up1·1 month agoThat’s very true. I routinely change the parts of me I love. I try to make them better. I’m a kind and loving person, but I’m trying to change that from a selfless form to a self preserving form. To know my limits and stop pouring from an empty cup.
minus-squareintensely_humanlinkfedilinkarrow-up1·1 month agoYou can even love the parts you are saying goodbye to. Not improving, but eliminating. You never have to turn off the love at all ever for anything.
You can also love the parts you’re going to change, as you change them. You don’t have to turn off the love to do surgery.
That’s very true. I routinely change the parts of me I love. I try to make them better. I’m a kind and loving person, but I’m trying to change that from a selfless form to a self preserving form. To know my limits and stop pouring from an empty cup.
You can even love the parts you are saying goodbye to. Not improving, but eliminating. You never have to turn off the love at all ever for anything.