• Letstakealook
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    I don’t think I’ve heard that word out loud in over ten years and the last person I heard say it was a gay man. I’ve run into some pretty shitty people in that time frame, yet none of them managed to use it. That’s really bizarre.

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      I got called it the other day when I put my hair up in a bun. And earlier that day I had coworkers say “he’s a man!” When I came in with my hair up and they didn’t realize yet that I didn’t cut it. Welcome to SW Virginia

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        Damn, I’m sorry. The fact that people like this are still around is baffling. I moved to Indiana about two years ago, and I’ve found many folks out here to be pretty backward, but not that good damn backward.

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            Do it! I left SW Virginia for the Pacific Northwest and it was one of the best things I’ve ever done for myself. Doubled my salary, with a modest CoL bump.

            Had to come back to help take care of a terminally ill parent, and can’t wait to leave again when they are gone.

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            Best of luck to you in that endeavor. It sounds like the people are quite unpleasant in the area.

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        Damn dude I’m just a straight derp metalhead with hair to my ass now (it wasn’t short short pre plague but since I couldn’t get a haircut I decided it’s time for metal hair). Worst I get asked here in mn is how long it took to grow out and the crap I put in it to make it look great and other details like pillows etc… latter normally women asking for info dumps. I do get confused as a woman rarely when people are on autopilot but that’s just amusing at this point and I just give the person a bit of a ribbing for assuming. It’s understandable but makes you realize just how much we bucket people by just off hair alone.

        I find it a great shitty people filter though, people that don’t like it tend to not be my kinda chill with like babymetal or we butter the bread with butter silly metal or generally. Good luck on moving sounds like the south is def not for me now if it ever wasn’t.

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      I hadn’t heard it in ages. Hung out with a group of my LGBTQ+ friends and they uh. Use it like the N word it seems. Was startling to hear but was used in friendly context. I did not join in lol

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      Oh my God I legitimately until your comment was like why the hell would they censor fascist? And why would she call gay people fascist anyway??

      I literally forgot the word existed.