Got out of my last relationship for this reason (amongst other things). I was the everything person - cook, accountant, maid, landscaper, scheduler, fun planner, etc. It didn’t start that way of course - just little acts of service out of love that became the expectation over time. Are things more equitable in your relationships, or are there any women who are where I was at? I’m still scratching my head wondering if I bear some of the blame for setting myself up that way and trying to get some good perspective for the next one!
My relationships have not been like that. It all depends on the people involved. Anyway, you did not make the other person take your actions for granted, and you did not make them endorse stereotypes about who should do what in a household.