My partner asked me in a text if we were romantically involved but we haven’t necessarily spoken about what we are yet. They’ve asked me multiple times if I liked them and I’ve asked the same thing but it was the first time they mentioned romance.
I think I want to know more about what romantically involved means, does it mean “relationship” or is it just we make love but aren’t into commitment. I was too scared to ask them the last time I saw them what we were because I didn’t feel the time was right and I’m too nervous.
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I think you should consider asking them to define what being romantically involved means for them.
Why are you two playing relationship chicken with ambiguous wordings?
Be an adult about it and ambush them where they can’t escape. Go to a restaurant, sit down, ask them how they feel about you, tell them how you feel, and then define the relationship clearly.
We’ve only been going out for two months
That was the exact play by play I used after going out with girlfriend after a month. She’s my wife now. It’s a good strategem 100% track record.
Being in a relationship is new for me I have never had any experience with relationships at all so I’m learning things as I go along. I think I was waiting until two months to bring something up but I really don’t know what I’m supposed to feel up to this point. I like hanging out a lot and I feel anxious when they don’t text me but how do I distinguish real love from just feeling attached to someone.
I think I want to know more about what romantically involved means, does it mean “relationship” or is it just we make love but aren’t into commitment. I was too scared to ask them the last time I saw them what we were because I didn’t feel the time was right and I’m too nervous.
Those are the words of someone who wants a more intimate relationship, not of someone who wants to maintain the existing status quo and doesn’t want the other person to get closer. Who cares about true love/affection distinction and why does it matter when it comes to defining your relationship. You two probably want to call each other boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other and make it “official”. Do so with a proper ambush.
Also this varies from person to person, but love is something I develop after getting into a relationship, not before.
He introduced me as his partner once and I’ve wanted to bring that up but never did
If the feeling’s mutual, you might as well do it. It’s risk-free. Just sit down and ask “I like you. Do you want to be my boyfriend?”
They’re already in a poly relationship so where do I fit in exactly
if you both have romantic feelings and are contacting each other then i say that qualifies as romantically involved
Literally just ask them. Set boundaries. Set expectations. Tell them what you want out of the relationship, whatever that is. Ask them what they want. Genuinely listen to them.
Every relationship is different. Every relationship evolves and changes over time. The only way to know what your relationship is right now is to ask with the intent to understand
I would say that just being ‘romantically involved’ implies there not being commitment
