trying to stop being so thin skinned:
I had an online discussion with a random, we had a short but intense exchange until he replied and then blocked me, robbing me of a chance to reply.
I feel hurt because I couldn’t reply. To me that means he won. I feel insulted and angry.
Yes, this is something I should talk to about with a shrink, but the therapist I contacted hasn’t replied yet, so I might have to start looking for a new one if this one ain’t reliable.
In the meantime I turn to the second best thing I can think of: this channel.
I can try to rationalize it: I cannot change it, I’m letting that guy live free in my mind, letting it go is the rational thing to do.
Except that here I’m not being rational, but emotional and I don’t know why this triggers me so much.
Not having the last word triggers me. How would you solve this?
Nothing, they’re just all im the same theme. You’re asking good questions though and I think you know what you need to do. It’s easier said than done though. IMO the secret to getting a thick skin is pretending. Fake it till you make it. But don’t just pretend on the outside. Others don’t need to be convinced that you have a thick skin. You need to convince yourself. If you do that often enough and keep it up, eventually you’ll find that you don’t need to put in any effort any more to pretend. The pretend has become an intrrnalized process and is therefor a part of who you are now. This approach will take a couple years though.