My life would be a lot easier if I could answer this on my own.

  • FearsomeJoeandmac [he/him, he/him]@hexbear.net
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    10 months ago

    Lol I have that same shit going on. Some blonde haired cute girl I had a crush on in high school and I was smitten.

    We kind of flirted back and forth a bit and she came over a few times to hang out with me alone and watch a movie. My socially obvious ass didn’t realize that if I asked, I probably could’ve gotten a kiss or maybe something more during those times?

    Anyways she lost interest eventually as sometimes happens and I’ve just had to let her go. Sometimes I’ll still see her around on social media. But it will never happen even though I still think she’s just so gorgeous. It’s hard my friend, but it will lessen over time

    • GinAndJuche [comrade/them]@hexbear.netOP
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      10 months ago

      More of a: my coworker is hot as all hell and I’m tired of recognizing that.

      Thank god she hasn’t expressed interest or I’d be permanently wrapped around a finger.

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        10 months ago

        Same happened with me developing a crush on my boss. When you fight it you make it a thing, I’m finding it better to not deny the attraction but more intentionally notice other parts of her and our dynamic to train my mind to focus on those things. Also reminding myself each time I day dream that that relationship isn’t possible so think of something else. I’m almost a month into the process, results are promising

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          Ahh, I feel you. Focus on stuff like: hell yeah she worked this section and everything is zoned properly. Use this thought to plop on top of the baser thoughts. Crush them.

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          10 months ago

          Yee, I just wish I had an off button I could press.

          More like gaslight myself.

          I’m bi flr fucks sake, why can’t I press a button and turn off strsight mode for a few hours?