• Hominine@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    I fail to see how not having a modicum of empathy for this person’s family after their horrific death qualifies as “standing up for myself,” but do feel free to explain this worldview in detail.

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      4 months ago

      This person would have no second thought at you dying in this car. Or your family. Therefor you are defending and standing up for someone who would trash you. It’s just sad to watch from the outside is all.

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        This person would have no second thought at you dying in this car. Or your family.

        Even if this were true, are we to assume the same of this woman’s grandchildren? Her distant family?
        Regardless, I fail to see the need to laugh at a terrible death, and that is certainly not standing up for anyone’s moral compass but my own.

        The sad state of affairs here is how far you and others like you are removed from your humanity.

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          4 months ago

          I don’t recall saying you should laugh. I recall saying you shouldn’t have empathy.

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            No, the top level comment refers to laughter and that is specifically what I am speaking out against here.
            And yes, I do have empathy for the family members of this woman and I find it telling that you let that slide by.

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              I haven’t let anything slide by. You are making assumptions about my character simply because I have no empathy for a single person because of their choices that led them to die. Again. I, Me, Santa did not say laughing is okay.

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                You jumped into the thread unwittingly then, and I am glad you have some amount of concern for such frivolity at the conclusion of a horrible death.

                However, I clearly and repeatedly highlighted OP’s and my concern for the family, and yet again you seem to have missed that.

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                  Correct. I am ignoring the family aspect of this story as it doesn’t matter. People die in car crashes every single day. A billionaire dying is a good thing imo. Like a dragon being plucked from the story books and laid before society’s feet. I am also very aware of how callous this is. The family does not deserve this. No one deserves this. But they damn sure do not deserve your empathy either imo. They are part of a family benefiting off suffering and doing nothing to stand out against it. They did their part letting themselves benefit from the unempathetic people they called family.

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                    All of our families seem to have benefited from barbarity, (though I take your point in the here and now.) In addition, I have a hard time blaming those born into that family (particularly the younger members), as none of us choose our birth, and it seems to me that wealth can be as deranging as poverty.

                    If my words felt calibrated to attack, I apologize and truly appreciate the conversation. You are considerate and I appreciate the handle.

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                You are making assumptions about my character simply because I have no empathy for a single person because of their choices that led them to die

                You bet your ass I’m judging your character based on this.

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                  Have you ever looked at the Darwin awards and laughed? Damn you are just as bad as me!

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                    Of course I have. I bet a lot of those people would laugh at their own deaths too, if they could see them afterward.

                    But that has nothing to do with empathy.

                    Being able to turn your empathy off at will, seeing empathy as a thing you can control, that tells me about your character.

                    You might not like that this reveals information about you, but it does.