This is a misery of their own making, men have no hand in that!
As a guy, I definitely don’t give two shits about anyone wearing the same outfit. Heck, I dress like a cartoon character: I buy seven identical shirts, seven identical pants and just wear that until things need replacing.
To an outside observer, it would look like I literally have one outfit that I wear for two months straight. I very rarely switch up a shirt when it’s either too hot or cold, but other than that, I like to keep it really simple.
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No one is interested (or should be interested how many different clothes you have at home). Or how many good friends did you ever make because they have been wearing different cloth every days for two weeks?
I wish it was socially acceptable for men to wear the colorful stuff women do on formal occasions. It’s almost always black, white, grey or maybe dark blue.
I want things like paisley suits to be considered normal. Why not? It’s just a pattern.
I’m not saying it because I want to do it, I’m saying it because I want to see it. Make congress a sea of color rather than a bit here and a bit there.
My fancy shirts are colorful silk patterns. I got bored of the old traditional formal wear, and I like the attention I get now.
I feel like you can, however it seems men take themselves too serious when dressing well. If you take yourself too serious as a man, wearing for example a pink suit will make you insecure.
So dark, solemn colors are easier to accept.
I wear suits for work and have them dark, but my social suits are light and colorful ( light blue, purple) and regardless I’ll wear fun and colorful shirts with them.
I don’t know that you can in business or political situations. I think if a man showed up to a business meeting or a legislative session wearing a paisley suit, they would get screamed at about not having proper decorum.
Every time my wife worries about not wearing the same thing, I get her to list any outfit the others were wearing last time.
It’s all in your head.
I’ve worn the same dress to pretty much every holiday and family event for at least the past 8 years. I don’t know if anyone thinks it’s weird or wrong. What I do know is that every person I’ve dated within that timeframe has told me that it’s their favorite of my outfits.
And that’s the closest I get to caring what anyone else thinks about it.
We don’t even get multiple outfit options. We get
- a suit
- an innoticably different suit
A tan suit
You can make your own clothes like me (early 50s, married cishet male), then have people question your sexuality and try to hook you up with their guy friends.
I just like dressing the way I want to dress and sometimes I want a burgundy corduroy dress suit or neon trews.
Huge respect to people who can do that. I do like watching some sewing channels on YouTube occasionally as it looks relaxing. But I’m definitely way too busy and clumsy for that. I’d end up sewing two fingers together.
It also looks like an expensive thing, right? Whenever I see someone buying cloth it’s always wildly expensive. Not to mention the other stuff you need to make things properly.
Making your own clothing doesnt usually end up being any cheaper than buying it pre made but you can choose your own materials and tailor the fit yourself.
Its definitely a time thing though but modern sewing machines can cut down on it quite a bit.
I don’t think I’ve ever noticed anyone wearing the same outfit multiple times. I couldn’t tell you what any of my coworkers are wearing today, because it’s been over 10 minutes since I looked away from my screen. I’m assuming people do reuse their clothes though. I know I don’t throw them away after wearing them exactly once.
My old boss is an exception - she had a different outfit for every day, and every single one of them looked like it’d taken more consideration to put together than I’ve ever put into clothing. So when she wore the same thing again sometime later, it was noticeable only because you were already conditioned to expect something new every day. Never heard anyone make a comment about repetition though - only compliments about the styles.
I notice when someone wears the same T-shirt multiple times but most people don’t have a million T-shirts. If you wear your Metallica shirt a couple of times a month, cool. You’re a Metallica fan apparently.
Other than that, I don’t notice.
I notice when one of my coworkers wears the same pants… because she’s got a fat ass.
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Literally this though. Almost all the shit that my partner believes she needs to do to be acceptable is put on her by other women. I don’t give a shit, and I’m positive most men don’t, about so much that she thinks she HAS to do to be attractive.
I would honestly love to own multiple suits, but ultimately as someone that works in tech the only times I ever get to wear a suit is a wedding or a funeral. All my friends are married, so that basically leaves a black/dark suit for weddings.
Who cares what hairless monkeys wear, male or female?
Other hairless monkeys, apparently.
To quote the immortal Al Bundy: ‘don’t try to understand women, son. Women understand women, and they HATE them’.
Ok, but why does the gender of the criticing person matter?
Because she is moaning about a certain gender’s privilege and the argument is that the limitation that leads to this privilege is entirely inflicted by the presumed limited gender?
But that is not relevant to whether or not it is an issue. I feel like this is implies that the victims are at fault.
If the victims are the gender without the privilege (as the woman in OP suggests) and the victims are the same group of people who are making individuals in the group feel bad for wearing the same dress twice (as OP suggests) then the victims, as a group, are at fault, it seems to me.
Is an individual woman who wants to wear a dress again at fault? No, but it ain’t a male privilege issue. It’s a culture among women issue.
The woman in OP seems to be going for “this is yet another way the patriarchy is keeping us down” or similar vibe, and although I usually agree with those sorts of assessments and think toxic masculinity is bad for everyone of any gender, this is definitely an own-goal by women.
Insert obi wan kenobi “you have done that yourself” meme here.
Edit: This also assumes I accept the premise put forth by the woman in OP. Based on things I hear (and don’t hear) from my wife and other women in my life, I’m skeptical that the woman in OP is expressing a universal, or even nearly-universal, truth about whether women can wear an outfit twice.
Just because woman are doing it doesnt mean it is not the patriachy, you can support and uphold the patriarchy as a woman.
Very true. And if you can explain how that is true here, I’m happy to hear it. Also please see my edit, which may not change your response. I did add a little more.
Bullshit - women don’t buy new outfits every day, they own a number of clothes they wear repeatedly and they get along fine. It’s time for this silly complaint to die.
Unsure if pedantic or autistically literal
Or just moronic.
Whatever, so long as you don’t stink
I think most people are missing the point.
For work I wear the same free t-shirt to support “brand awareness” once a week.
It doesn’t matter if it’s man or woman making the statement this is what matters: what sad fucking life are you living to notice what I wear every day?
I had a co-worker, in a different office than me, who had two of the same shirt. She decided to wear only those two shirts to work until somebody said something. A little more than 3 weeks later and someone finally commented on it.
A co-worker from years ago once said “if you’re noticing that I’m wearing the same shirt repeatedly, it’s more your problem than mine.”
Even if we take the premise that woman judge other women for their daily wear for true I would not blame the women.
As far as I can see it’s taught to young girls to judge other people by their daily wear. It’s the system itself that enforces that belief that should be judged IMHO. And again IMHO that is not a gendered issue. This image gets reinforced by men and women alike.
It’s basically classism. It’s what upper class people have done for centuries at parties to identify which family has become poorer. Then this behavior seeped into the middle class through the media. Since gossip rags would judge celebrities based on their outfit. And middle class people copy that behavior to seem more upper class.
As far as I can see it’s taught to young girls to judge other people by their daily wear.
Who is teaching them that?
Shitty magazines like cosmo and teen people for one. All those weird fashion blogs and celebrity media bullshit. Plus all the ethically dubious ways fashion brands market their products to get people to buy more clothes.
Then it’s reinforced by their peers and sometimes family.
Sadly marketing and advertising has steered cultural norms for way longer than it should.
Their mothers in my experience. Then their friends when they get older. It’s really awful TBH.
The mothers… Then other girls.
Nature is competition, humans aren’t immune.(Or nearly as evolved as we think we are). Women historically haven’t been allowed physical competition so they found other ways to decide hierarchy.
This gave me a weird reminder of an elementary teacher I had that wore this animal print often (not like leopard print, but actual leopards on it?)
In hindsight, your question is spot on. I was an extremely miserable child to even take note enough to still remember that in a critical way. Not that I’m critical of it now, and I never said it to the teacher or anything. I gave her trouble enough in other ways
I wish I remembered her name now. Poor lady. She was nice
