It’s not about deciding your the best friend. It’s about being a good friend and it happens naturally. No one owes you anything but you have to keep being a good friend. A good friend is as good as a best friend.
If a good friend or best friend tells you a ridiculous secret, don’t under any circumstances, no matter how much time has past, no matter how silly the secret seems, don’t tell it to anyone else, ever.
Tell the truth too. If there’s something you can’t tell the truth about, find a way to change the situation so that you can tell the truth.
Good information is like healthy food for the mind. Good, reliable information is the basis of mental health. Be a source of good, reliable information for your friends.
Don’t lie or distort things, even if it’s trying to help them. The overall effect is negative. It’s poison for the mind. Some part of their mind will notice the gaps between what you say and reality, and it will reduce their level of trust for you. When their trust is reduced, the amount of brain power they have to use to cover all the possibilities of what your words might actually mean is a major stressor and it will degrade their health.
So tell the truth, even when it’s uncomfortable. Together, the two of you can face whatever it is you told the truth about, and you’ll both grow and you’ll be on the journey together so the friendship will be super tight.
Give too much, or take too much, in a way that reduces competence in taking care of themselves
Conspire with others for their friends detriment or for their benefit (unless in the benefit case the conspiracy is short-lived and quickly revealed by plan, like a surprise party)
It’s not about deciding your the best friend. It’s about being a good friend and it happens naturally. No one owes you anything but you have to keep being a good friend. A good friend is as good as a best friend.
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If a good friend or best friend tells you a ridiculous secret, don’t under any circumstances, no matter how much time has past, no matter how silly the secret seems, don’t tell it to anyone else, ever.
I learned this the hard way…it’s usually a test.
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Depends on context but get along, be supportive, be thoughtful and do it altruisltically.
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Tell the truth too. If there’s something you can’t tell the truth about, find a way to change the situation so that you can tell the truth.
Good information is like healthy food for the mind. Good, reliable information is the basis of mental health. Be a source of good, reliable information for your friends.
Don’t lie or distort things, even if it’s trying to help them. The overall effect is negative. It’s poison for the mind. Some part of their mind will notice the gaps between what you say and reality, and it will reduce their level of trust for you. When their trust is reduced, the amount of brain power they have to use to cover all the possibilities of what your words might actually mean is a major stressor and it will degrade their health.
So tell the truth, even when it’s uncomfortable. Together, the two of you can face whatever it is you told the truth about, and you’ll both grow and you’ll be on the journey together so the friendship will be super tight.
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A good friend should not:
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