• Mardoniush [she/her]@hexbear.net
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    7 months ago

    What if you’re bald but want to metal out with long curls? Men should be allowed to be pretty, or tall, or refined. Or none of these, you want to rock the power doughnut? cool and good actually!

    The reason we mock the chuds for a receding hairline is because they hide this concern for appearance and aesthetic behind a mock hypermasculinity. Not because men aren’t allowed to feel dysphoric when their literal hair falls out. I’d be fucking inconsolable if that happened to me! Fuck beauty standards, fuck the tyranny of nature, humans should create themselves and their natural habitat.

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      7 months ago

      What if you’re bald but want to metal out with long curls?

      Bald guys gotta learn from Northernlion. Being bald is cool, but you’ve gotta own it. There’s nothing sillier looking than a bald guy who can’t accept that he’s bald. Maybe if we lived in a sci-fi world where wigs and hairpieces and all actually looked like hair does it’d be a different story, but in this world, unless you’ve got like a professional stylist putting it on you every day, it … doesn’t.

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        7 months ago

        I am of the opinion that we should let people look silly if it makes them happier. Telling someone who’s body image is “lots of hair” to just “own it” is kind of shitty.

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          I mean sure, you can look as silly as you like, I’m not going to haul you off to fashion prison. But most people aspire not to look silly.

          The thing is, a lot of people here just seem to be pushing harmful beauty standards that we should all be trying to push back against. None of us get to choose what our body looks like, and that’s why for so long it’s been important to help people be comfortable and content with the body they have. Not everyone gets to have the right amount of hair, or exactly the facial features they want, or the right height or whatever. It’s part of the life of every human who has ever lived. Nobody looks at themselves in the mirror and says, “yes, that is perfect, there is absolutely nothing that could be improved on.” No one. Not cavemen, not pop stars, not people who have had a thousand surgeries to try to fix all their flaws. You only have two choices in this life, to learn to be happy with the body you’re in, or to be unhappy. Because you’re never going to make that unhappiness go away by “fixing” your body.