I’m 41F. I was married but separated 8 years ago. I was still young but was very traumatized and never really wanted another relationship. Lately I’ve been feeling a little lonely and would like to meet some new people but I moved and don’t have many friends here and the ones I have are younger and do younger people things (like going out at night. I’m too old for that lol). I wanted to meet some people my age, friends or dates, but almost everyone is married. I do cooking and French classes but again, only young people do that and I’m the “odd old lady”. I think people past 40 don’t really have hobbies or money to spend on them. I’m overweight so I can’t really use apps, and to be honest don’t really want. So how a single woman without kids (can’t have it) meet people?! Or do I just give up?! lol

  • Lifecoach5000@lemmy.worldEnglish
    481·
    5 months ago

    Organize a local Lemmy meetup for 40+ year olds! Lol

    I am in my mid 40s myself. I think the default advice is to just find social hobby groups and meet people that way. The more you put yourself out there, the more chance you have to make a connection. Also, I don’t think it’s a problem to be the “odd old lady” - wear that badge with pride IMO.

    • MissJinx@lemmy.worldOP
      12·
      5 months ago

      I would love but I’m not in america and people here don’t really know about it :/ … yet lol

    • abbadon420
      1·
      5 months ago

      I work for a college for people who want to change careers into IT. We’re not very big, but we have a nice community. We have plenty if 40+ students, but also plenty in their early 20’s. We have this one lady who is “the odd old lady” and she’s just awesome. She’s honestly one of the greatest persons in school.