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  • BountifulEggnog [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
    8·
    2 months ago

    oooaaaaaaauhhh I know I should but it all just feels weird to me. Even getting she/her on there at all was hard. I also wouldn’t be upset if you did they/them me on here because that is one of my tags.

    The thing is I completely understand defaulting to they/them online and do the same, you don’t really see any of my presentation online. Right now my presentation irl is completely a guy, and I’d understand/be fine with someone using he/him but once I start changing that… You know?

    • TerminalEncounter [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      10·
      2 months ago

      I remember the inevitable “let’s go around the room and say our names and pronouns” and feeling locked up cause I boymoded that day… ugh awful. I ended up saying I just wasn’t using pronouns even though inside I was screaming “just use she/her pleeeeeaaase.” I didn’t like the idea of boymode me being so incongrous with what I wanted to be referred to as.

      • WalrusDragonOnABike [they/them]@lemmy.today
        7·
        2 months ago

        I remember the inevitable “let’s go around the room and say our names and pronouns” and feeling locked up cause I boymoded that day

        As an egg, I was glad to never be asked my pronouns cause I didn’t want to think about that.

    • rayne [she/her]@hexbear.netEnglish
      7·
      2 months ago
      cis folks are dumb about gender

      I haven’t started hormones yet so I definitely have masculine traits. Anyway I was at a party and presenting very feminine otherwise, and I got misgendered. I gently corrected the person and that was it.

      I think a lot of cis people are defaulting to they them, in an effort to not assume. But they don’t realize that itself is an assumption.

      What I would like though is more people just asking what pronouns I prefer. And I hope we’ll get there soon, but yeah cis people don’t understand that it’s okay to ask and I had to explain it to cis friend of mine who was not sure how they should gender somebody that was presenting very gender neutral that they had recently met. So I told her just to ask.

      Which is what I do in trans spaces and with other gender non-conforming folk. I just ask.